tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post2745743065892812156..comments2024-03-05T05:53:36.239-07:00Comments on The Masculine Heart: Female Bisexuality Is Cool, Male Bisexuality Is Still Forbiddenwilliam harrymanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-38183146528929130852012-07-03T07:51:26.708-07:002012-07-03T07:51:26.708-07:00I am a female who has been married for over 15 yea...I am a female who has been married for over 15 years. I love bisexual men. My husband is strictly heterosexual. My husband is aware that I find both sexes equally attractive so I guess I fall into a shade of bisexuality. We have both been monogamous our entire marital relationship. My bisexual relations occurred before we were married. My most ideal relationship is poly amorous..which I have wanted for as long as I can remember..is to be in a loving relationship with 2 bisexual men. For me it's not just the sexual experience, which are no doubt a turn on, but it includes the intimate emotional connectivity. I am not turned on by swingers club type of scenarios or one night stands or orgies. My husband and I openly express our desires and fantasies but we have never acted on them because 1. He is totally opposed to the idea, which I fully respect. He does not judge my desires and entertains them as much as he is able within a heterosexual, monogamous relationship and I reciprocate 2. I could not be in a MMF or FFM where any of the parties could not connect on the various levels of a fully intimate relationship. 3.Even if there was a remote possibility, we wonder how that would affect our relationship once it really became a reality. And we both debate the affect of the fall of certain boundaries. Is it healthier to keep certain desires a fantasy because it fuels our relationships own fires? My husband openly admits he couldn't handle it. However, I don't have hang ups about opening our relationship boundaries to include another male or female...providing we both had equal attractions and felt safe with the person that would become a part of our lives. I have often questioned my sexual "normality" because I can basically form a bonding relationship both emotionally and physically with either gender with whom I am strongly attracted. I can be monogamous or poly amorous. I am grateful that my husband and I can express our desires in this way. We mutually respect each others boundaries. I do feel bisexual people have a harder time finding community acceptance. Even though my husband and I have been open there are certain topics where he gets uncomfortable. If you are really looking for a relationship type of situation your best bet would be heterosexual couples. Many women love bisexual men and there are a lot of men who just haven't come out. Women can come out easier because we are not as stigmatized, it's openly known that many men enjoy 2 women together..just look at all the porno geared at this...but what isn't as well known is that women enjoy 2 bisexual men too. Lesbian communities shun bisexual women too but maybe not quite as much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-1410962582789122392012-05-12T17:01:29.756-07:002012-05-12T17:01:29.756-07:00Thanks for the post. I am a closeted bisexual man ...Thanks for the post. I am a closeted bisexual man in my 30s. I stay closeted because, even though I live in one of those most tolerant communities in America, there really is not any support for bisexual men within the GLBT community. Bisexual women who are with women are viewed as women who finally playing for the right team. Bisexual women are with men are viewed as strong allies of the lesbian community.<br /><br />Bisexual men, on the other hand, are viewed just like you say they are, as gay men unwilling to embrace their homosexuality, or straight men who are just being obnoxious hipsters by experimenting. <br /><br />I would say it is harder to be bisexual than homosexual. I have nowhere to go. I fear I will wind up alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com