tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post943951045879803215..comments2024-03-05T05:53:36.239-07:00Comments on The Masculine Heart: Is Courage a Masculine Virtue? - Two Viewswilliam harrymanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-34760187008475441642009-03-13T11:03:00.000-07:002009-03-13T11:03:00.000-07:00There's an evolutionary/cultural/consciousness pie...There's an evolutionary/cultural/consciousness piece to this too: <BR/><BR/>We are at a unique juncture. Only when men have INTEGRATED their "feminine" qualities, can they embody a new level of masculinity that goes BEYOND unconscious role play. <BR/><BR/>Conversely, when women have INTEGRATED their "masculine" qualities they can embody a new level of femininity that also goes BEYOND unconscious role play.<BR/><BR/>Integral language is useful here... "Include and transcend."<BR/><BR/>I've come to call the new relationship between men and women "trans-equality."<BR/><BR/>We've gone from unequal... to equal... to beyond equal. At least... some of us have!<BR/><BR/>Keep up the great work William!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-67908434851095408842009-03-11T15:53:00.000-07:002009-03-11T15:53:00.000-07:00"Women have been doing this for centuries, now men..."Women have been doing this for centuries, now men need to learn this skill."<BR/><BR/>Jesus.<BR/><BR/>More than half the martyrs who were brutalized to death.<BR/><BR/>The monks who quietly submitted to death at the university of Nalanda when the Muslim invaders took three days to annihilate the entire faculty.<BR/><BR/>The monks currently standing up to the Chinese as the only hope of their nation's survival. <BR/><BR/>Innumerable other men down through the centuries.<BR/><BR/>Don't buy the distroted history you get fed. Don't deny the existence of brutal, reactive women. A lot of women carry a lot of wounds and take it out on everyone around them. Look at the child abuse stats.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-38318010158270793532009-03-10T08:41:00.000-07:002009-03-10T08:41:00.000-07:00Amanda,Thanks for your thoughtful comments - much ...Amanda,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your thoughtful comments - much appreciated.<BR/><BR/>Chogyam Trungpa would say that this is TRUE courage: <BR/><BR/>"It takes a lot of heart to hold the pain, the grief, and the woundedness, to connect with others in that state, and to process healing without lashing out at others."<BR/><BR/>Nicely said!<BR/><BR/>Women have been doing this for centuries, now men need to learn this skill.<BR/><BR/>Peace,<BR/>Billwilliam harrymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-74732651891838688792009-03-09T19:15:00.000-07:002009-03-09T19:15:00.000-07:00In "I Thought It Was Just Me," shame researcher Br...In "I Thought It Was Just Me," shame researcher <A HREF="http://www.ordinarycourage.com" REL="nofollow">Brene Brown</A> says: <I>Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor--the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences--good and bad. Speaking ro our hearts is what I think of as "ordinary courage."</I> <BR/><BR/>She credits the term <I>ordinary courage</I> to Annie Rogers (1993) Voice, play, and a practice of ordinary courage in girls' and women's lives. <I>Harvard Educational Review, 63,</I> 265-294.<BR/><BR/>I suppose I would ask if it is our connotations around the word courage exclude 'feminine' courage. I know it takes a hell of a lot of courage for me to risk talking about sexual abuse, for example, about both my personal history and recovery process and about how society creates and supports perpetrators and reinforces the silence of victims. It's a message that is still not very welcomed in everyday America....is seeking 'power with' others for the sake of change somehow less courageous than using 'power over' others to dominate them, using weapons or brute force? <BR/><BR/>The courage I see in women is one of transmuting their wounds and working for healing and positive social change rather than revenge. What I've seen in men is the using physical force to take power from someone else when they don't feel powerful enough on their own. Clearly, this is not what all men do, but I am speaking solely from my experience, and have seen it more times than I have seen healthy and courageous emotional recovery. <BR/><BR/>It takes a lot of heart to hold the pain, the grief, and the woundedness, to connect with others in that state, and to process healing without lashing out at others. I think this is courage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com