tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.comments2024-03-05T05:53:36.239-07:00The Masculine Heartwilliam harrymanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06981478282688361274noreply@blogger.comBlogger1079125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-73276104386508329442021-06-23T18:34:17.200-07:002021-06-23T18:34:17.200-07:00It's 10 years later. I bet your waist is 32 at...It's 10 years later. I bet your waist is 32 at least.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15906533201798158530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-52939337077637345912020-06-26T06:12:25.655-07:002020-06-26T06:12:25.655-07:00woahwoahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-30009541231816820032020-06-09T03:44:46.395-07:002020-06-09T03:44:46.395-07:00Thanks for copying and pasting Brené’s response. ...Thanks for copying and pasting Brené’s response. I spent thirty minutes digging for it.Justin Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11809291117887163281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-79400270664471428692020-05-11T14:25:50.022-07:002020-05-11T14:25:50.022-07:00If you bothered to talk to a sex therapist before ...If you bothered to talk to a sex therapist before you wrote this article of negativity, their answer will always in the end be: "just have sex" as the solution. That is essentially what Prager is saying from what I've read. If a woman wrote this I doubt you would have created this response. It's not remotely misogynistic, it's plain and simple. A person can be as kind as considerate and 'modern' as you want, the answers from professionals never change if you are a mentally healthy person, the answer will always be, "just have sex". <br /><br />There, I saved you countless hours and thousands of dollars worth of talking to strangers. Why society has told women that they need to only talk to a shrink about intimacy is beyond me. Their husband seems to be the last person they want to talk to about it. Ridiculous. Grow up and realize your spouse knows u better than any therapist could. <br /><br />Talk to your spouse and have sex and stop whining about it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04235230078868150953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-38732202422188069582019-11-18T12:06:00.776-07:002019-11-18T12:06:00.776-07:00I truly believe that you are mistaken, misinformed...I truly believe that you are mistaken, misinformed and misguided when it comes to the MKP weekend and I groups. If focuses on becoming an integrated man. I believe I grew as a human being going through the weekend. Yes I revisited that childhood trauma that was destroying my life, I faced it, I acknowledged it, and dealt with it with the encouragement and support of other men. The weekend is not a end all fix all, men have to continue on their own to heal whether in a group, therapy, or alone. I believe most men that attend the weekend are already looking for something that will help them heal, overcome or grow. I'm a complete different person now that I was 3 years ago when I attended, a much better human being. On my weekend though there was a man that was complete distraught, hurt, traumatized and unwilling to let go or move past his wound that I don't think he got anything out of it. He couldn't deal with his issues/traumas and needed alot of therapy, MKP NWTA did nothing for him even though he stuck around, it probably just agitated him some more, but that was a personal issue nothing the men could do to help him. We all can learn from any experience when we are open to it. Not wanting to get through deepp personal wounds is what keeps traumas alive. A 3 day weekend is not going to that for a man unless he is willing. To hear about these men that go through MKP NWTA and commit suicide or become more isolated, or seem more agitated... I believe there was nothing anyone could do to help them, their traumas are so deep, these men already made the decision. Going through the weekend could have been one last attempt to save themselves from themselves. Sounds terrible but it true, whiteness a man with deep wounds that was deeply disturbed and traumatized that it's hard to say if anything would have helped this particular man. Men go into MKP NWTA wounded and they get out of it what they are open to. It could be a flash of light or it could be a man's realization that they are fucked (as false as that is) they could have gone to church hears a sermon and went home to out themselves. We hear about all the negatives but hardly do we hear stories of the men who MKP NWTA saved, personally I'm one of them and know of many other men who have began the journey to healing themselves. MKP is not perfect but it's a helpful resource many men.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947085357726551722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-16426611968845721782019-10-14T14:55:10.467-07:002019-10-14T14:55:10.467-07:00So many wild posts on this site about the Mankind ...So many wild posts on this site about the Mankind Project (MKP)! And thoughtful posts too. I attended the NWTA 5 years ago and have benefited greatly. Let me say first that it in no way meets the criteria of a "CULT." I've met men of all backgrounds and religions in MKP. There is no Leader to follow or a set of beliefs to adhere to. The focus is on men determining for themselves what works for them. It's about taking responsibility for your own life. No doubt at some centers there are men trying to tell others what to believe or how to act, this can occur in an organization made mostly of volunteers. My experience in southern California is of caring, heart-connected men holding up a mirror so I can identify unproductive behaviors and make choices on how to live a more authentic and joyful life. <br />If someone has serious mental problems MKP is probably not the best venue. It could be of some support along with individual counseling and doctor prescribed medication. But for reasonably adjusted individual this organization is blessing, providing community, support and insight. JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15505140821549793895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-12649026953327068862019-05-22T19:35:00.616-07:002019-05-22T19:35:00.616-07:00I found this quite insightful as to my husband’s s...I found this quite insightful as to my husband’s stance towards therapy. Thank you. Jim and Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11560652617985324817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-87016635490406338012019-04-29T15:05:35.420-07:002019-04-29T15:05:35.420-07:00Thanks for sharing. Love your blog.Thanks for sharing. Love your blog.Matthttp://vacuumcleanerguru.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-44120006352285128852019-04-23T23:38:54.002-07:002019-04-23T23:38:54.002-07:00The whole "pick a weight you can only squat f...The whole "pick a weight you can only squat for 10 reps--and now get 20!" is total bullcrap and will lead to injuries or worse let alone you will only be able to train this way for a few weeks before you stall out and are unable to continue. STOP IT with the macho bullcrap. The REAL way to do 20 rep breathing squats is to take your 5 rep max, subtract 90lbs, then START with that weight and each squat workout add 5lbs to the bar. This allows the trainee to break into the exercise with a lighter load while adapting and assuring they will get at least 6 weeks of squatting. If they 20 rep squat 3 times per week then they will end up after 6 weeks squatting for 20 reps with their old 5 rep max. Also, they take a 5 to 10 seconds pause between reps, even the first ones, because oxygen fuels your muscles and though you may not need the extra breath at the beginning you will toward the end of your 20 rep set. Take my advice or leave it, I've only been powerlifting for 20+ years so what do i know, right? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-24779034844246718802019-04-20T10:19:53.259-07:002019-04-20T10:19:53.259-07:00feels accuratefeels accurateAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-61026992454323476612018-11-28T01:47:11.283-07:002018-11-28T01:47:11.283-07:00Several helpline numbers have been repeatedly post...Several helpline numbers have been repeatedly posted by the government to help the one in need. Even they are working with <a href="https://www.nagrikfoundation.org/" rel="nofollow">NGO in Delhi</a>, Mumbai or other major cities to reach more and more victims in remote areas.ritikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05780561855475871286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-42379989519142295602018-11-25T11:05:22.211-07:002018-11-25T11:05:22.211-07:00Let's hear from someone who is polyamorous and...Let's hear from someone who is polyamorous and that would be me. I love my wife deeply and she loves me as deeply. When I'm with my wife, I am fully present with her. We are married and with that we fight, make love, laugh and argue. When I am with one of my partner, I am fully present with her. We are partners and with that we fight, make love, laugh and argue in exactly the same way as when I am with my wife. They know each other and are fine with the arrangement of poly. Since my time with my partner began, my intimacy and general relationship has become closer and more mature. Both my wife and I are on second marriages. Mindset is everything here - if you think you are playing around - you are. The people I have become acquainted with who are poly are very honest and open with all of their friends, albeit they do not shout out the fact that they poly either. I found the poly community to be anything goes to very discreet. I am completely in love with both my wife and my partner and we are all okay with the arrangement. My partner doesn't want to move in with someone or have someone live with them as I don't want to move in with someone. I hope this opens some eyes in a good way. Peace...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02281704431151224339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-46226158287223552582018-10-19T23:52:21.605-07:002018-10-19T23:52:21.605-07:00Great post!Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-43414256756462685442018-10-16T16:36:35.175-07:002018-10-16T16:36:35.175-07:00Matthew 7:15
Beware of false prophets, which come...Matthew 7:15 <br />Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep's clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883283067834328425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-28920557415116963072018-09-08T16:26:31.586-07:002018-09-08T16:26:31.586-07:00nice one nice one Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01668621216852963233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-29223715680703363082018-09-02T20:31:28.110-07:002018-09-02T20:31:28.110-07:00I filed for a divorce because of 18 years of emoti...I filed for a divorce because of 18 years of emotional abuse. But, my husband over the past 4 tears tried to get me arrested for DV accusations. He used my oldest to attack me 2 tines abs lied to the police. <br />I was exonerated but now for the divorce he can still bring uo evidence that was proven not true uo to say I gave a history of violence. One judge decided to take my kids, kick me out of my home, and take my service dog. I'm black and he's white. This us beyond fair and just.fitmotifhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06206032233693482585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-39085395990204908532018-03-23T10:35:54.501-07:002018-03-23T10:35:54.501-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03503691562158423801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-46878946379466068062018-01-18T23:55:33.293-07:002018-01-18T23:55:33.293-07:00Thank you so much for sharing this. I was in his l...Thank you so much for sharing this. I was in his last class and I would not be the writer that I am today without him. He had faith in me and my writing and was a mentor to me. I'm so grateful for the guidance he gave me, and even all these years later, I still miss him terribly. Thanks to him I have continued with my degree in creative writing. I still have a draft of a poem he was working on and asked me to critique. I would love to be able to get it to his wife but I don't know how. If you can help me I'd appreciate it!Ruth Pickardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00600753430635431125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-85661659129026439122017-11-16T09:46:06.999-07:002017-11-16T09:46:06.999-07:00I did the NWTA a couple of years ago. I went there...I did the NWTA a couple of years ago. I went there just for a new experience, without any expectations. I was completely cycnical about the chances of any positive tranformation. However, it was extremely tranformative for me and it has lead to a path of self improvement that has completely changed my life for the better.<br /><br />Two things to know about the NWTA and MKP in general:<br /><br />A) It has hardly any messages. It basically provides you with tools for self exploration. You choose your topic of work and you reach your own conclusions. MKP just supplies you with the toolkit to reach a deeper understanding of your issues and effective ways to commit to change, if you want it and in any way you want it.<br />In my opinion, the main ingredient in the toolkit is indeed simply the group dynamic, which forms a container within which you are able to lower your shield and explore yourself in earnest.<br /><br />B) It is run by volunteers and the staff members of an NWTA actually pay for the priviledge of helping other men. The volunteer pool is composed of all initiated men, which is a far too large and diverse a group and is run too democratically to have a single voice and opinion regarding any issue. The one common denominator they have is that they all have been impacted positively by this method and wish to share it with others.<br /><br />However, I must admit that immediately after the NWTA, there was an adverse effect on my relationship. I was not influenced by any message from MKP or have been in any contact with any MKP man at the time. I was simply in a new, unfamiliar state of mind, building myself new and healthier ways to cope with life, and I was going through a sort of "adolescent" phase. I overcorrected and replaced humility with a bloated ego. I got over it quickly and we eventually got married and we are very happy. She was very suspicious at first, but she now adores the changes in me and the positive effects on our mutual life, and I adore her.<br /><br />MKP does not have the means to control each initiate's process after the training. So every man must control his own process of change, and make sure it is done in moderation and with care. For me, personally, taking a short time out to process the change after the weekend might have been beneficial.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-79356426450078184172017-09-08T17:42:26.368-07:002017-09-08T17:42:26.368-07:00I just broke off a potential relationship with som...I just broke off a potential relationship with someone deeply embedded in this group. Under the guise of being an "awakened" man, he was controlling, micro-managing, manipulative and misogynistic. He would speak to me like he was reading out of a techhelp manual. It was robotic and creepy. He spent an inordinate amount of time bashing his ex wife, sent me that gross book "a woman within" to read. I flipped thru the pages and immediately saw it was b.s. Stepford wife shit. His comments were men need to be able to cry and hug. Well then, cry and hug each other, who really is stopping you but yourself. Maybe I'm nuts, but just like a room full of white old men determining what women do with their bodies, perhaps men trying to fix themselves, isn't the way to go. Einstein calls that the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. Until they make peace with the mother, whether it be a woman or the earth, nothing will get fixed. I dodged a bullet. The initiation is cult like, no way around that and secret societies need to go the way of skull and bones. Its now a litmus test, you're involved with this group, I run.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-71174259289364903992017-08-08T14:05:30.018-07:002017-08-08T14:05:30.018-07:00While I think that there's indeed faulty resea...While I think that there's indeed faulty research and simplistic assumptions on innateness of gendered traits, the likes of Cordelia Fine will also be nearly equivalents on the other side. She's pretty much dismissive of things like the boy or boys who had their penises accidentally mutilated and were raised as girls, or even differences in gradients of hormones in behavior and so on.<br /><br />I find kind of curious that this sort of denial is eerely similar to the politically incorrect conservative view that transexuals are just "deviants", that they just chose to deviate from gender norms "just because".<br /><br />I don't think the strong notion of a brain sexual dimorphism or hermaphroditism would be the cause for gender identity disorder, anyway. I guess it's more along the lines of a process of identification that usually "gets it right", failing at it. That in turn could drive further genderization of the brain by behavioral mimicry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-76556659405519947152017-07-01T18:20:32.749-07:002017-07-01T18:20:32.749-07:00Central to the idea of dead work is something that...Central to the idea of dead work is something that is also central to the idea of manliness: that it is not to be questioned. The ideal of the yoke is seldom taught today. For anyone to become truly realized in the society of men, one must first learn the way of the slave. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-56685129766063609382017-05-29T12:08:55.344-07:002017-05-29T12:08:55.344-07:00My partner attended a Gateway GBTQ in April 2017. ...My partner attended a Gateway GBTQ in April 2017. We were both leery about the weekend as there is no information about what happens on or is involved with the weekends. The descriptions on the various MKP websites provide no real substance. All the information provided is vague and superficial. The personal stories that are relayed vary in such degree from wonderful to demoralizing, from men-mentoring-men to cult, from freeing to psychologically traumatizing, from improvement in relationships to destroying marriages, from becoming the man "I've always wanted to be" to suicides, and more. It is the inconsistent and mostly lacking response from the MKP organization to these personal stories that leads to the belief this is a group of men cloaked in ritualistic secrecy to be treated with suspect.<br /><br />I did see a change in my partner upon his return from the weekend. He seemed more sure of himself and knew what he wanted and needed in his life. However, he would not speak to me about the weekend even though I was more interested in how it had impacted him personally and not the process. He was told to not speak of the weekend as it could diminish the benefit of me experiencing it first hand. This secrecy only served to make me less likely to attend. We did not speak further about the weekend for a few days. In fact, I asked him not to refer to the weekend or MKP when talking about how he was changing and growing more into the man he wanted to be.<br /><br />As time has passed, he has spoken more about the activities and processes of the weekend, shown me some of the tasks he completed, spoken of the experiences and how he has changed as a result of what he learned including what he learned about himself. As he and I have been growing, learning and healing in becoming better men and a better couple, I would agree his experience on the weekend contributed to these changes but was not the overwhelming or sole factor that initiated or perpetuated them, contrary to what MKP would subscribe.<br /><br />While I would not recommend or discourage anyone from going on a weekend or being involved in MKP, I have gained enough knowledge about them to conclude they are not for me at this point in my life. I will continue to support my partner if he chooses to continue his involvement with the organization but it is with the understanding that I do not wish to speak of it so as not to endorse or condemn.<br /><br />I have learned over the years that every personal story and experience contains elements of truth about whatever organization or group an individual is involved in. No matter what the organization or group or individuals involved in them may say will be biased. They cannot with any integrity discount, dismiss or undermine what an individual knows to be true for themselves and those who know them most intimately.<br /><br />My comment to anyone considering MKP and any of their groups or activities is to ask questions and seek out information before committing time, money and energy. If they are not forthcoming and you feel unsafe or unsure, practice self-care and don't become involved. I have found this has served me the best and made me a better and stronger man, something that takes time and a combination of individuals, groups, organizations, supports, therapies, life-style changes, etc. Not one of these can work solely or independently from the others no matter what claims are made to the contrary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-18124738577248423002017-05-25T16:28:32.747-07:002017-05-25T16:28:32.747-07:00I loved the weekend. However I felt many of the I-...I loved the weekend. However I felt many of the I-groups were dysfunctional. I also question if this is really the best way to do shadow work. I support some aspects of MKP but not all, such is life, take what you can use or learn from and leave the rest.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10481664903044030966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7372876601826078687.post-39605127029174148402017-05-24T03:44:13.663-07:002017-05-24T03:44:13.663-07:00Sean Stephenson Official Channel Link, Subscribe F...Sean Stephenson Official Channel Link, Subscribe For More.<br />https://www.youtube.com/c/SeanStephensonOfficial<br /><br /><a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/SeanStephensonOfficial" rel="nofollow"><b>Sean Stephenson Official</b></a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05306530156070450415noreply@blogger.com