Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Tripp Lanier - How Coaching Can Help You Quit Fumblef**king Around and Live Your Best Life

A lot of guys seem to be lost these days. Working with a coach can help. Tripp Lanier is a coach who specializes in working with men. 'Nuf said.
How Coaching Can Help You Quit Fumblef**king Around and Live Your Best Life

I get TONS of emails from guys who love The New Man Podcast but can’t seem to bridge the gap between what they’re hearing on the show and what they’re actually living.

Many guys want to:
  • Discover their passion or purpose
  • Find more satisfaction in their work and personal lives
  • Make some positive changes without upsetting their family or financial situation
  • Get over a hump they’ve been dealing with for months or maybe years
  • Look back on their life and have no regrets
What’s amazing to me is that most guys will fumblef**k around their challenges for years — wasting precious time, energy and money without ever achieving the success they really want.

It’s obvious that this “one foot in, one foot out” way of doing things is way more draining and costly than just putting both feet in.

So why do guys hold back, settle for less and “play-it-safe”?

Two reasons:

(1) They don’t know WHAT to do:
I’ve found that guys want specifics, a plan, a path. ABC’s, 123’s. Nuts and bolts. The Magic-Formula. The How-to Manual. Walking into uncertainty is a no-no.

(2) It’s too risky:
What if it doesn’t work? Guys are afraid to waste time, energy or money. They want some kind of a guarantee before they dive in.

Sound familiar?

So let’s say you’re a guy who has a goal, a vision or a desire to improve some area of your life.

How can you make your success inevitable?

How can you figure out what to do while minimizing the risk?

And what would that success be worth to you?

This is where coaching comes in.

What the heck is coaching?

Take a look at any major athlete. He or she has someone in their corner. Someone who helps them see their blind spots, play to their strengths and help them become the best they can be.

They’re not doing it alone.

For some reason, many guys find it completely acceptable to see this paradigm play out on the court or field; however, they don’t quite connect that they, too, can have this in their lives.

They, too, can have someone who helps them be the best they can be, to help them live their best life.

Nonetheless, the lone rangers — the guys who insist on going it alone — saddle up and ride off into a sunset of fumblef**king their way through uncertainty.

Kinda sad, huh?

So, what can YOU do?

In a nutshell, coaching will help you dig deep and find the right answers for yourself. Even though there is no magic formula or plan that works for everyone, if you want to live your best life, you CAN create the supportive container to make your success more likely.

A good coach will help you:
  • Get clear about where you’re headed
  • Stay on track
  • Challenge you to be the best you can be
  • Support you when things get a little sideways
What does coaching actually look like?

As your coach we would meet roughly once a week via phone (or video web conferencing). We’ll spend about an hour helping you get clarity about what you want and where you want to be headed. We’ll talk about what obstacles may be in the way and then develop strategies that fit for you.

This isn’t a cookie cutter mold or course. This is a custom tailored program that works specifically for you, your goals and the type of person you are.
  • We’ll co-create strategies that fit for you.
  • We’ll co-create practices that fit for you.
  • We’ll use our time together to benefit YOU.
Bottom line -- In our calls you'll get:
  • Clarity about where you're headed and what you truly care about
  • Challenge to step into this greater possibility
  • Accountability to actually follow through
  • Support for helping you get through the rough bits
Between meetings you’ll be taking action, getting things done and gaining momentum. You will no longer be stuck in the weeds. You will no longer be “wandering alone in the desert.”
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