Friday, April 30, 2010

Dudes Sharing Feelings with Dudes

Most guys in the gym would never tell their buddy how lucky they feel to know him. Most guys would likely be afraid of being thought of as gay or girlish (it's hard to say which would be worse for most men). And that's sad - why can't one guy tell another guy that he cares about him?

My friend is younger than me, so there is a kind of big brother/little brother thing. I never had a little brother (and always wanted one), but he has two older brothers who, from his perspective, never really understood him.

We share some experience - we both suffer from occasional depression, we both have social anxiety, and we both have ADD. And we both put our health above most other things (in his case, his two little girls come first).

So today he told me that, to him, knowing me feels like a gift - that's pretty damn cool to hear. That's it, a pretty simple statement.

Why is it so hard for guys to share things like that?


John Paul Martinez said...

First and foremost, thank you for sharing this story and emotional statement that your gym buddy shared with you.

I feel that within "our" society in the USA men on men affection even in the 21st century is downplayed and seen as a negative notion! As you mentioned within your story people see it as "they must be Gay" "princesses, drag queen" or whatever other conclusion they conjour in their head.

Growing up I felt the same way! I was born within a traditional Spanish family with two sisters i being the middle child, where the father always worked and never had time. I remember growing up and teaching myself how to shave, brush my teeth, and learn about life as a whole! From time to time I too feel and miss the affection of another male role model within my life.

This is probably long so I will end it there.

Thank you for sharing.

Anonymous said...

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