Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Cindy Gallop’s New book, "Make Love Not Porn" - Free for Today Only

Cindy Gallop dates younger men, mostly in their twenties - she has found that a disturbing number of these young men, who have grown up believing pornography is the norm of human sexuality, have no idea what women really desire in a sexual partner, let alone how to have emotionally intimate sex (i.e., making love). She launched MakeLoveNotPorn in a 2009 TED Talk, and it has expanded from there.

MakeLoveNotPorn is a Cindy Gallop production. I date younger men, usually in their 20s, and came up with the idea for MakeLoveNotPorn based on direct personal experience. I launched MakeLoveNotPorn at TED 2009: TED 2009: Make Love not Porn followed by an interview with me on the TEDBlog Here is a talk I gave recently at the L2 GenerationNext Forum that expands on how this is the single biggest impact that technology is having on human behavior today.

I would like to stress the following:
  • MakeLoveNotPorn is not about judgement, or what is good vs what is bad. Sex is the area of human experience that embraces the widest possible range of tastes. Everyone should be free to make up their own mind about what they do and don't like.
  • MakeLoveNotPorn is not anti-porn. I like porn and watch it regularly myself.
  • MakeLoveNotPorn is simply intended to help inspire and stimulate open, healthy conversations about sex and pornography, in order to help inspire and stimulate more open, healthy and thoroughly enjoyable sexual relationships.

If you support what MakeLoveNotPorn is all about, if you want to understand in more detail why this is an issue, if you'd like to learn more about my sex life than you ever wanted to know :) or if you'd just like an interesting, entertaining read - please click here to buy my e-book 'MakeLoveNotPorn: Technology's Hardcore Impact on Human Behavior' for just $2.99 on Amazon, and please do rate and review it after you've read it. It also makes a great gift for anybody you think would enjoy or learn from it. Many thanks for your support!
I think she has a good idea - but the new feature announced below about uploading videos of normal people having sex will turn it into a porn site, exactly what she doesn't want. So many of the sex addicts I know totally dig "amateur" porn - it's probably the 2nd most watched genre after the seriously degrading stuff.

Anyway, as announced by the folks at TED, today you can get the ebook for free - see the links below

Cindy Gallop’s book, Make Love Not Porn, available for free today through the TED Books App

“I date younger men,” Cindy Gallop boldly proclaimed at TED2009. “When I have sex with younger men, I encounter very directly and personally the real ramifications of the creeping ubiquity of hardcore pornography in our culture. … There is an entire generation growing up that believes that what you see in hardcore pornography is the way that you have sex.”

When she spoke at TED2009, Gallop unveiled her website, a forum for discussion on the topic of real sex. (Read a Q&A with Gallop on the TED Blog from shortly after the launch.) Now, Gallop has launched the next evolution of —, a YouTube for real, unperformed sex. Contributors pay $5 to post a video of themselves having sex, and get paid as users shell out $5 a piece to watch their videos. Currently, there are 13 videos on the site and, as The New York Times describes them, “Compared with the harsh lens of mainstream pornography, the videos come across as sweet, earnest, languid, playful and deeply human.” So far, more than 19,000 people have signed up for the site.

To celebrate the launch of, Gallop is offering her brilliant TED Book for free through the TED Books app all day today. Head to the iTunes store to download the app or, if you already have it on your iPhone or iPad, pick Gallop’s book off the app shelf to enjoy the free gift, packed with extra photos and videos.

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