Thursday, June 13, 2013

Laugh More! ~ Richard Restak on Laughter and the Brain

One of the regular homework assignments I give to my counseling clients is to laugh as much and as often as possible. It is nearly impossible to feel anxious or depressed when we are laughing. Even a simple smile (faked or real) can alter brain chemistry enough to change our mood.
When we smile, fake or real, the contractions of the facial muscles slightly distorts the shape of the thin facial bones. This slight distortion in their shape leads to an increase in blood flow into the frontal lobes of the brain and increases in the release of dopamine (Iwase et al., 2002, Neuroimage; 17:758). As a result, walking around all day with a smile on your face will bias your mood to be happier. Not only will you be happier but your smile might spontaneously induce the release of dopamine in someone else's brain—now that truly demonstrates the power of a smile.
In a new article from The American Scholar, Dr. Richard Restak gives anecdotal and neurobiological explanations for how and why laughter is good for us.

When was the last you laughed, really, really laughed, until tears flow and your abs hurt?

~ Richard Restak is a neurologist and neuro­psychiatrist, and the author of 20 books about the brain, including The Playful Brain: The Surprising Science of How Puzzles Improve Your Mind (with puzzles by Scott Kim). He is also a former advisor to the school of philosophy at The Catholic University of America.

Laughter and the Brain

Can humor help us better understand the most complex and enigmatic organ in the human body?

By Richard Restak

Photo by Nosha

In my neuropsychiatric practice, I often use cartoons and jokes to measure a patient’s neurologic and psychiatric well-being. I start off with a standard illustration called “The Cookie Theft.” It depicts a boy, precariously balanced on a stool, pilfering cookies from a kitchen cabinet as his sister eggs him on, while their absentminded mother stands drying a plate, oblivious to the water overflowing from the sink onto the floor. Though not really a cartoon—in that nothing terribly funny is taking place—it allows me to begin assessing various things: abstraction ability, empathy, powers of observation and description, as well as sense of humor. I am especially curious to see how patients process the image, whether they perceive only a portion of it or take it in as a whole. Some people notice only the boy, others only the mother.

Next, I show a series of cartoons, starting with examples from a newspaper comics page and working up to more sophisticated drawings from The New Yorker. I then ask for an explanation of what’s going on in each of them. Over the years, I’ve learned that you can’t fake an understanding of a cartoon; you either get it or you don’t.

Finally, I tell a few jokes set out in increasing levels of subtlety and complexity. Patients don’t have to find the jokes funny (humor is too heterogeneous for that), but they should be able to explain why other people might find them funny. Why am I interested in my patients’ ability to appreciate humor? Because humor impairment may point to operational problems at various levels of brain functioning.

Charles Darwin referred to humor as “a tickling of the mind.” We speak of being “tickled pink” at a funny joke, and tickling often leads to laughter, so the analogy is apt. At the physiological level, humor reduces levels of stress hormones such as cortisol and is thought to enhance our immune, endocrine, and cardiovascular systems. Laughter also provides a workout for the muscles of the diaphragm, abdomen, and face. A joke can raise our spirits, or ease our tension. If we’re able to laugh during a stressful situation, we can put psychological distance between ourselves and the stress. Norman Cousins, editor of The Saturday Review for more than 30 years, chronicled in his 1979 bestselling book, Anatomy of an Illness, how he attempted to cure himself of a mysterious and rapidly progressive inflammatory illness of the spine by engaging in hours-long laughing sessions while watching Marx Brothers films and reruns of the then-popular Candid Camera. Though Cousins’s claims could not be scientifically confirmed, even the most skeptical researchers agree that humor provides an antidote to some emotions widely recognized to be associated with illness—for example, the feelings of rage and fear that can precipitate a heart attack.

Though I wouldn’t take a position on whether laughter has universally salutary benefits, many laughter associations and workshops around the world—common most notably in India and Sweden—do just that. Their goal is to promote good health via the therapeutic properties of laughter. LaughterWorks, which bills itself as “Australia’s leading laughter leaders,” arranges seminars and workshops for various groups, as well as half-hour sessions of “laughing, breathing and gentle exercise, under the guidance of one of our qualified laughers.”

A Swedish friend described a laughter-inducing exercise involving two people sitting across from each other. When one begins to laugh, the other soon starts laughing, too. Not long ago, my friend and I decided to try this ourselves. She sat facing me, and after a few awkward moments (at least on my part) spent staring silently at each other, she began laughing. I wasn’t sure how to respond. But a few moments later I found myself laughing, even though nothing funny was said. I must admit that I felt better after our laughter exercise. But why?

In the weeks that followed, as I searched for an explanation, I was invited to participate in a discussion with three popular comedians—Robert Kelly, Dan Naturman, and Kristin Montella—at the Comedy Cellar in Greenwich Village. The four of us sat at the famous Comedy Table, reserved for professional comedians, and spent almost two hours engaging in some high-speed repartee concerning the interaction between comedians and their audiences. The comedians, naturally curious about the presence of a “brain doctor” in their midst, may not have known that the club’s owner, Noam Dworman, had read my books and has long maintained a lively interest in neuroscience.

Soon after, I sat on a panel at the Rubin Museum of Art in Manhattan, where I joined New Yorker cartoonists Zach Kanin, Paul Noth, and David Sipress to explore the question of why people find cartoons funny. We discussed how humor, whether conveyed by joke or cartoon, has both a subjective component (exhilaration or mirth) and its physical expression (smiling or laughing). One can exist without the other: we may find a risqué joke amusing but withhold a smile if we happen to be in polite company. We may also laugh nervously when we’re made to feel uncomfortable. We laugh when we hear others laugh—as I experienced with my Swedish friend (indeed, this phenomenon of contagious laughter is why laugh tracks are used in situation comedies). Laughter can even be induced chemically, with laughing gas, or via electrical stimulation of certain parts of the brain.

Recently, scientists have begun conducting research into the neurological processes underpinning mirth and laughter. I would not suggest that neuroscience can “explain” humor or provide the reason why we laugh at certain jokes or cartoons and not at others. Trying to parse humor, in any case, can be a self-defeating exercise. As E. B. White once wrote, “Humor can be dissected, as a frog can, but the thing dies in the process and the innards are discouraging to any but the pure scientific mind.” Still, neuroscience can provide some useful insights into what happens when we find a joke or cartoon funny. Ultimately, it isn’t just humor that we seek to better understand, but rather, that most complex and elusive of organs: the human brain.

The brain has no humor “center.” Humor is associated with—note that I didn’t say “caused by,” à la White’s frog dissection analogy—brain networks involving the temporal and frontal lobes in the cerebral cortex. Located near the top of the brain, these cortical areas are related to speech, general information, and the appreciation of contradiction and illogicality. Obviously we can’t appreciate a joke told in a language we can’t speak, or a cartoon that relies heavily on cultural norms or information foreign to us. Within these cortical areas the joke or cartoon is parsed.

All humor involves playing with what linguists call scripts (also referred to as frames). Basically, scripts are hypotheses about the world and how it works based on our previous life experiences. Consider what happens when a friend suggests meeting at a restaurant. Instantaneously our brains configure a scenario involving waiters or waitresses, menus, a sequence of eatables set out in order from appetizer to dessert, followed by a bill and the computation of a tip. This process, highly compressed and applicable to almost any kind of restaurant, works largely outside conscious awareness. And because our scripts are so generalized and compressed, we tend to make unwarranted assumptions based on them. Humor takes advantage of this tendency. Consider, for example, almost any joke from stand-up comedian Steven Wright, known for his ironic, deadpan delivery:
—I saw a bank that said “24 Hour Banking,” but I didn’t have that much time.
—I bought some batteries, but they weren’t included. So I had to buy them again.
—I washed a sock. Then I put it in the dryer. When I took it out it was gone.
—I went into a store and asked the clerk if there was anything I could put under my coasters. He asked why I wanted to do that. I told him I wanted to make sure my coasters weren’t scratching my table.
In each of these examples, everyday activities are given a different spin by forcing the listener to modify standard scripts about them. Indeed, the process of reacting to and appreciating humor begins with the activation of a script in the brain’s temporal lobes.
Read the whole article.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

The New Man 137: Shawn Phillips – What’s Really Killing Your Mojo? Low Testosterone

On the new episode of The New Man Podcast, hosted by Tripp Lanier, Tripp talks with Shawn Phillips about sexual mojo, energy levels, and how low testosterone can be at the cause of many male health issues.

Shawn is one of the most knowledgeable people in the fitness world, and he is also a student of integral theory, providing him with a wider framework for creating and identifying the best practices for health and fitness. Shawn serves as a lead facilitator and faculty member of Ken Wilber's Integral Institute, where he shares his form of strength training that fully engages the power of a focused mind and peak concentrated physical intensity.



TNM 137: Shawn Phillips – What’s Really Killing Your Mojo? Low Testosterone

11 JUNE 2013



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Are you leaning on crutches like caffeine and sugar because you’re dragging ass?

Are you fired up or just getting by?

And what if your external life challenges — job, relationship, whatever — are not the things that are killing your mojo?

Shawn Phillips is back to discuss a hidden monster that’s devouring the lives of more good men than ever. We’re talking about the effects of low testosterone in men and the simple ways you can turn it around.

In this interview:
  • Why I didn’t care about Low T before but now I do
  • How Low T impacts everything we do and care about
  • What you’re doing everyday to kill your mojo
  • What simple choices you can make to build it again
  • Why being clean and fresh is making you weak
Plus…
  • Why HRT alone is not the solution
  • Shawn’s guided process to get you back on track
  • How to get rid of the puffy face and stubborn belly fat
  • How to stop settling for feeling like ass just because so many other guys are
  • Meditation (surprise!)
And…
  • Shawn’s fascination with shaved legs — on men
Learn more about Shawn’s program to dial in your testosterone here.


About Shawn Phillips, Author and Strength Expert




Longtime ambassador for personal transformation and fitness, Shawn Phillips is on a mission to spread a new standard of strength throughout America. On his quest, Shawn has focused his considerable passion on transforming our country, with his steady, unwavering message: “health is not enough; it’s A Time for Strength.” Phillips asks each of us to aim beyond health, to aim for Strength.

Shawn, whose uncompromising commitment to strength and fitness, is a best-selling author, entrepreneur, and renowned expert in the area of performance training and nutrition. For over twenty-five years he has helped hundreds of thousands of people including business leaders, professional athletes, numerous celebrities, clients and friends look great, feel great and unleash their full strength.

Instrumental in building the industry of performance nutrition, Shawn most recently created the Full Strength Premium Nutrition Shake, pioneering a brand new category known as “fast performance food.”


 
Shawn is also the creator of Focus Intensity Training, a system integrating body and mind; blending the depth of Eastern traditions with the Western form and function of strength training. He also has served as a faculty member of the Integral Institute, a leader in the field of human potential.

While known by many for his signature “six-pack abs,” his brilliant clarity and inspiring vision, Shawn, a Colorado native, is better known by his family, close friends and associates as a focused, hard-working man with a kind heart and an intense passion for helping people live extraordinary lives.

He is currently forming the Coalition for Strength, a new non-profit organization dedicated to sharing and celebrating the benefits of living with strength to inspire people of all walks of life to build our collective strength by cultivating our individual strength.

Shawn is the author of Strength for Life (2008, Ballantine Books). In Strength for Life Shawn guides women and men beyond health to a new-level of strength with a revolutionary approach to nutrition and training. He is also the author of ABSolution: The Practical Guide To Building Your Best Abs.

Nutritional Power Of Full Strength 

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Candice Holdorf - Vulnerability Is the Real Strength

In this nice post from The Good Men Project, Candice Holdorf explains why she (and many other women) prefer a man who is in touch with his feelings, and therefore those of his partner. She states, and I cannot agree more (for men AND women), that vulnerability is real strength.

Men, You Get To Have Your Feelings, Too

JUNE 10, 2013 BY CANDICE HOLDORF 

Being more stable and open with our feelings contributes to a better relationship. And a better self. 


I recently experienced what some would call an emotional breakdown. The hippie, new-age Cali girl in me would prefer to think of it as an emotional breakthrough. But yeah, I had a breakdown. 
Anger, unspoken desires, resentment, exhaustion, hunger—all of these conspired to create the perfect storm of matrimonial turbulence. 
Until he finally held my shoulders, looked into my eyes and said, “You get to have your feelings.” Finally, the knot I had been gripping with all my arrogance melted. He had touched the sore place where love does not easily flow. 
The welling tears spilled forth, and my shaking body, caught in the grip of deep climax, collapsed onto his chest.

I could trust this man because I know that in our relationship, he gets to have his feelings too.
♦◊♦
Men seem to be perpetually caught in a paradoxical mind-fuck which dictates that they must be the impenetrable ‘rock’ in the relationship. He can’t have any feelings or those feelings must take a backseat to his partner’s. This belief, while chivalrous in its roots, cripples intimacy. 
The stoic and mysterious Don Draper may certainly be appealing for a night of sensual debauchery, but his relationship track record is pretty wretched. 
To me, being a rock doesn’t mean that a man is bulletproof or fixed. A rock is a porous being. It absorbs the water just as much as it meets and holds it. 
The rock is meant to symbolize constant presence. What that means is a man stays connected no matter what is swirling within himself or his partner. He remains open and permeable, mirroring his partner with equal amounts of honesty 
Vulnerability is the real strength. Someone willing to say what he feels while holding the space for his partner’s experience requires the utmost courage and willingness to stay firmly rooted in the moment. 
When a man is permeable, he is truly feeling his partner and not simply dealing with him/her. The former breeds compassion and trust. The latter usually plays out one of two ways. 
In the first, the man may completely detach from the experience. He essentially waits for his partner to ‘get it over with’ before he returns to the present. 
In the second, the man may settle into the old game of ‘son saves mommy’, leaving both parties completely disempowered as neither will take responsibility for his own experience. The focus becomes on finding someone to ‘fix’ and not on sharing experience authentically. 
As woman, I want a partner, not a caretaker. A playmate, not a parent. Someone who is already whole, not depending on me to make him whole. When a man is in alignment and approval of his own inherent femininity, it opens the door for total, embodied masculinity (which is pretty damn irresistible). 
So men, release the ‘handle-the-problem’ mindset and allow yourself to be penetrated. Your willingness to have your feelings allows me the freedom to share mine. 
Open your heart. Ground into your cock. Breathe. Let your commitment to stay present remain unwavering and speak your truth. That is the real rock we are calling forth from you.

Image Credit: visualpanic/Flickr
Read more about Marriage on The Good Life.

Saturday, June 8, 2013

Fathers Should Ask Kids: 'Am I the Dad You Need Me to Be?'


Wow, I can't imagine how my life might have been different if my father had asked that question - or even considered for a brief moment that how he treated me would impact my life in some negative ways. As a child, I interpreted his actions as being about me, or about the specific circumstances, but not about him as a father or a person. After he died (I was 13), when I was in my teens and early 20s, I began to realize that his behavior was a function of who he was, not about me as a son. I got that intellectually long before I got it emotionally.

Children try to make sense of their world in very complex ways, but deciphering the intentions behind others' behavior can be challenging (a skill that develops as the frontal cortex develops, which is not fully formed until people are in their mid to late 30s).

In the study, girls made more stable attributions (based on his qualities as a father) of the father's positive actions than did the boys (all early adolescents), who generally created unstable attributions (based on situations).

Here are the citation and abstract for the source article (full article behind a paywall, $25), followed by a summary of the article and research from Science Daily.

Full Citation:
A. K. Finlay, J. T. Cookston, D. S. Saenz, M. E. Baham, R. D. Parke, W. Fabricius, S. Braver. (2013). Attributions of Fathering Behaviors Among Adolescents: The Role of Gender, Ethnicity, Family Structure, and Depressive Symptoms. Journal of Family Issues, DOI:10.1177/0192513X13478404

Attributions of Fathering Behaviors Among Adolescents: The Role of Gender, Ethnicity, Family Structure, and Depressive Symptoms


Andrea K. Finlay, Jeffrey T. Cookston, Delia S. Saenz, Melinda E. Baham, Ross D. Parke, William Fabricius, Sanford Braver

Abstract

Little attention has been paid to how early adolescents make attributions for their fathers’ behavior. Guided by symbolic interaction theory, we examined how adolescent gender, ethnicity, family structure, and depressive symptoms explained attributions for residential father behavior. A total of 382 adolescents, grouped by ethnicity (European American, Mexican American) and family structure (intact, stepfamilies), reported attributions for their fathers’ positive and negative behaviors. Results indicated that for positive events, girls made significantly more stable attributions, whereas boys made more unstable attributions. Mexican American adolescents tended to make more unstable attributions for positive events than European Americans, and adolescents from intact families made more stable attributions for positive events than adolescents from stepfamilies. Implications are discussed for the role of attributions in father–adolescent relationships as prime for intervention in families.

Study Suggests Fathers Should Ask Kids: 'Am I the Dad You Need Me to Be?'


June 5, 2013 — As Father's Day draws near, psychologist Jeff Cookston says dads should ask their children for a little more feedback than they might get with the yearly greeting card.

Just being a good parent may not be good enough, said Cookston, professor of psychology at San Francisco State University, who has studied fatherhood extensively. "There's a need for fathers to sometimes say to their kids, 'How am I doing? Am I the dad you need me to be?'"

"Kids are actively trying to make sense of the parenting they receive," he explained, "and the meaning that children take from the parenting may be as important, or more important, than the behavior of the parents."

"I don't think a lot of parents give these ideas about meaning much thought," Cookston said. "You may think that you're being a good parent by not being harsh on your kid, for instance, but your child may view that as 'you're not invested in me, you're not trying.'"

The meanings that adolescents in particular attach to their fathers' behavior can vary depending on the child's gender, ethnicity, and the presence of a stepfather in the child's life, Cookston and former SF State graduate student Andrea Finlay report in a new study published in the Journal of Family Issues. The study included children from California and Arizona.

The researchers examined how adolescents view their fathers' actions -- specifically, whether the teens attribute these actions to a dad's overall character or to his reaction in a particular situation. For instance, a daughter might believe her dad took her to the baseball game because he is a good father, or she might believe that he took her to the game because he likes to go to the game.

The study suggests that girls tend to believe that a father's "enduring aspects" are responsible for a dad's good deeds, while boys are more likely to think that dads do good depending on the situation. Mexican-American children are more likely than their European-American peers to think that good times with dad depend on the situation.

The reasons for these differences are not clear, Cookston and his colleagues say, although in the case of boys and girls, it may be that girls are socialized to interpret other people's behavior in a more positive light. In Mexican-American families, the process of adapting to U.S. culture may increase family conflict, leading children to have a less optimistic view of their fathers' good deeds.

Cookston has conducted extensive research on parenting and fatherhood, with a focus on how children from diverse cultural backgrounds respond to parenting and how children perceive and construct their relationships with their fathers. His research has shown that the relationship between father and child can have a significant impact on the child's tendencies toward depression and behavior problems.

Father's Day can be a good time for dads to rethink their relationship with their children, with a few tips that Cookston has gleaned from these studies:

  • Be sure to check in with your child. Dads may be surprised by the "filters" their children use to interpret their behavior, making it important for fathers to regularly ask about the relationship. "Fathers should ask, 'am I more or less than you need me to be?'," Cookston said, "and children -- particularly adolescents -- should be able to say, 'I need you to change course.'" 

  • Show your emotional support. Dads provide everything from discipline to role modeling, but Cookston said it is the fathers who emphasize their emotional relationships with their children who have kids that are less likely to behave in aggressive and delinquent ways. 

  • Don't be afraid to switch up your style. If you weren't always a warm and accepting father, it's not too late to become one, according to Cookston. "Parents can change, and kids can accept that. Parents need to be constantly adapting their parenting to the development and individual needs of the child." 

  • Be a team player. Cookston's research focuses on dads, but his work with divorced families has taught him how valuable it is when parents work together as a team. Children are more likely to talk to parents about family relationships if they see that they agree on parenting decisions, he noted, and "parents play unique, additive roles in their children's lives." 

  • Aim high as a dad. "We need to raise the bar for fatherhood. If a man is around and is a good provider and doesn't yell at his kids and goes to soccer games, we say that's enough," Cookston said. "But we need to expect more in terms of engagement, involvement and quality interaction."

Friday, June 7, 2013

Craig Ballantyne - Why Cardio Sucks: Part 513


It's summer, which means time by the pool, the beach, or a lake . . . any place with cool water. If you want to feel comfortable taking your shirt off in front of other people, it's also time to get a little more lean and fit. Besides, good fitness is the gift that keeps giving - better immune system, longer life, better sex life, and a whole lot more.

From Craig Ballantyne, at his Turbulence Training site, offers this excellent rejection of cardio and offers an excellent DB circuit that will make your heart pound and build strength and muscle.


Why Cardio Sucks: Part 513


BY CBATHLETICS ON MAY 31, 2013

I think this headline from the Wall Street Journal says it all…




Cardio is over-rated.

And not only is too much of it probably dangerous for your heart, but cardio really doesn’t work for fat loss. Plus, it takes up too much time.

So what’s better?

Many forms of interval and metabolic training. The June 2013 issue of Men’s Health magazine reported that doing just three sessions of intervals was as good for increasing cardiovascular fitness as doing five long, boring cardio workouts.

But what if you find interval training boring?

Well, never fear, because Turbulence Training is here to save the day!

Try this three exercise circuit from Kate Vidulich, Certified Turbulence Trainer. It’ll help you get lean AND healthy. Check our her guest article…


STOP doing these workouts (do this instead)


By Kate Vidulich, CTT, New York City’s top metabolic personal trainer for advanced fat loss results Scientific research has exposed the dangers of excessive cardio, again.

In 2012, research published in the British journal “Heart” stated:
Running 20-25 miles or more per week eliminates the benefit of the exercise as you grow older and causes excessive wear and tear on the heart.
Wow. Could it be any more obvious?

In fact, even Dr Kenneth Cooper agrees. The father of ‘aerobics’ has said, “If you are running more than 15 miles a week, you are doing it for some reason other than health.”

Please stop doing this immediately for your safety.

The truth about cardio is this:
1. You can get more effective fat burning workout in less time
2. Spending less time exercising means less wear and tear on your heart, joints and muscles
3. You can free up a TON of time, at least 200-250 minutes/week (if you’re running a 10 minute mile), and do more important things
But listen, with the right exercises, you can do amazing fat burning workouts to boost your metabolism while protecting your heart.

Fat Loss Accelerators are the perfect metabolic conditioning complexes to add to your program and replace harmful cardio or even traditional interval training.

All you need is a pair of dumbbells.

Choose a weight you can lift overhead for 10-12 reps. I recommend 20-25lb dumbbells for fit guys and 10-15lb for fit women. Start conservatively. You can always go heavier in the next set.

Do each exercise in order with no rest, and without putting the weight down. Aim for a fast, controlled pace with a smooth transition between exercises.

At the end of the circuit, rest for 90 seconds. Repeat for 4-5 rounds:
A) DB Thruster x 8
B) DB Bent over rows x 8
C) DB Alternating reverse lunges x 8
Here are some tips when doing DB thrusters:
(i) Hold the dumbbells in front of your shoulders, with elbows bent.
(ii) Take 2 seconds to lower your hips until your thighs are parallel to the floor.
(iii) Push back up, press the dumbbells overhead until your arms are straight.
(iv) Lower the dumbbells shoulder height as you immediately descend into the squat for the next rep.
And a quick note on DB bent over rows: Keep your torso parallel to the floor and abdominal muscles engaged. Think to hinge at your hips, tuck your elbows in when you row and never EVER let your back round. If you get fatigued and your form gets sloppy, take a timeout. Always stay safe!


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Get more of Kate’s metabolic conditioning workouts here

Kate will be speaking at our 3rd Turbulence Training Summit in San Diego later this month (it’s SOLD OUT, sorry!).

If you can’t train with her in NYC or San Diego, don’t worry. Just go to her web page at the below link and find out more about her Fat Loss

Accelerators. These workouts are TT-approved and she’s one of our top up-and-coming Certified Turbulence Trainers!


Use Kate’s Fat Loss Accelerators to replace intervals and cardio

Kick cardio to the curb for faster results,

Craig Ballantyne, CTT
Certified Turbulence Trainer

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Men Feel More Physically Attractive After Becoming a Father - But Why?

Well, who woulda thunk it? In a study from the recent issue of Journal of Gender Studies, an interesting study asking, Why do men feel more attractive after childbirth?

It never would have occurred to me that men felt more physically attractive after becoming a father, especially considering the prominence of Paternal Postnatal Depression.

On the other hand, it only seems to apply to the first year of marriage. Weird.

Men feel more physically attractive after becoming a father


Hey good looking!

Never mind the sleepless nights and domestic disarray, new fathers think they're hot stuff. The finding comes from a survey of 182 heterosexual couples by Alicia Cast and her colleagues. The couples were quizzed three times - just after they got married, a year later, and again a year after that.

Whereas women who had a baby in the first year of marriage experienced a subsequent dip in their feelings of physical attractiveness, new fathers showed the opposite pattern. The feel-good effect was short-lived, however, as the men's raised feelings of physical attractiveness returned to normal levels by the end of the study.

For some reason, men who became a father for the first time in their second year of marriage did not enjoy a spike in physical self-appreciation, although there was a slight trend in that direction. New mothers in the second year did however experience a dip in their self-perceived beauty, just the same as the women who became mothers in the first year.

"Our research indicates that women believe that they are less physically attractive after the birth of a child," said the researchers, "but that men believe they are more physically attractive."

Unfortunately the study provides little evidence for why the participants felt differently about their appearance after having a baby. The researchers speculated that mothers may feel less attractive because of physical changes to their body, or because they have less time to pay attention to their appearance. Perhaps fathers feel more attractive because of an increased sense of masculinity. The researchers were able to rule out another suggestion - that participants' changed feelings of attractiveness were due to any change in their spouse's view of them.

Although this new research has only just been published, the data were actually collected in the early 90s, which places a question mark over whether the findings would replicate today. Moreover, the sample was predominantly White, US middle class and the results may only speak to that group. Indeed, Cast and her colleagues highlighted past research that suggested African American women perceive their bodies more positively after childbirth than White women.
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Full Citation:
Cast, A., Stewart, S., and Erickson, M. (2013). Why do men feel more attractive after childbirth? Journal of Gender Studies, 1-9 DOI: 10.1080/09589236.2012.750239


Alicia D. Cast, Susan D. Stewart, and Megan J. Erickson.  

Abstract

A great deal of research has examined women’s bodily experiences with respect to pregnancy, childbirth, and the postnatal period. Men’s experience of this significant life event is less scrutinized. Using longitudinal data from 182 newly married couples in the United States, we examine the effects of childbearing on wives’ and husbands’ feelings about their bodies. Our results suggest that whereas wives’ perceived physical attractiveness declines after the birth of a child, husbands’ perceived physical attractiveness increases. 

Introduction

Contemporary research has argued that individuals’ social experiences with the body are especially important under modernity, where the body becomes a ‘project’ (Giddens 1991, Brumberg 1997), reflecting who the self is to the outside world. This is an important component in how individuals evaluate themselves and are evaluated by others. Pregnancy, childbirth, and the postnatal body provide an opportune context in which to examine the relationship between the body and the self (Giddens 1991). While a great deal of research has examined how the newly acquired social status of ‘mother’ transforms how a woman thinks about herself, as well as how she is perceived and subsequently treated (see, for example, Cowan and Cowan 1992), there is less research examining how becoming a mother changes how she thinks about her body (Bailey 2001, Upton and Han 2003). We assess here the effect that having a child has on one’s perceived physical attractiveness. 
The physical changes in a woman associated with having a child (such as weight gain) may have a negative effect on perceptions of physical attractiveness. Alternatively, some new mothers report feeling more ‘feminine’ following childbirth (Strang and Sullivan 1985, Bailey 2001). 
Becoming a parent, however, is more than just a physical event – it also has symbolic meaning within society. As such, it is also likely to have consequences for fathers, but little is known about how having a child affects men’s perceptions of their bodies. Although fathers do not experience the same physiological changes as mothers, they have reported symptoms typical of pregnancy (tiredness, backache, depression) during their partners’ pregnancy (Fawcett and York 1986, Drake et al. 1988). Similar to mothers, fathers may experience a decline in perceptions of physical attractiveness. Alternatively, having a child may heighten feelings of masculinity for men, which may lead to more positive perceptions of physical attractiveness (Antonucci and Mikus 1988, Belsky and Kelly 1994). 
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Wednesday, June 5, 2013

The Psych Files Podcast - Ep 196: What Men Need to Do to End Violence Against Others


From The Psyche Files Podcast, Michael A. Britt, Ph.D., former Assistant Professor of Psychology at Marist College, a new podcast on what men need to do to end violence against others.

The Psyche Files: Ep 196: What Men Need to Do to End Violence Against Others

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Are jail time and new laws the only answers to men’s violence against women, children, and other men? Or is there something every man can do to end these tragedies? In an earlier episode of The Psych Files in which I discussed Blaming the Victim, I talked about why there’s a tendency to blame victims and to overlook the Optimism Bias that we all share (particularly younger folks). But podcast listener and psychotherapist Jackie Henry felt that I didn’t go far enough in that episode, and she was right. We – especially men – need to think carefully about the way we talk about women in our everyday lives. Was that joke really funny? Or was it one of the small ingredients that eventually adds up to – or contributes to – the ongoing violence and lack of empathy that those with power express toward those without it. We take up this important issue in this episode of The Psych files.


We say to ourselves, ‘What can I do? I’m only one person. How can we change the system?’ I think you move through that and you realize that there are small things you can do. Once we work on the individual level eventually that’s how bigger things change – Jackie Henry

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Alyssa Royse - The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality

A nice article from Alyssa Royse writing for The Good Men Project. Male sexuality has been demonized by both men and women in the last few decades. But these abusive men are a small minority, although the media does not make it look that way.



The Danger in Demonizing Male Sexuality

MAY 28, 2013 BY ALYSSA ROYSE




Alyssa Royse explains how our current predator/prey model of sexual relationships is harmful to both men and women.

Jamie Peck over at The Gloss, wrote a great little piece asking a great big question: Can Men Write About Sex Without Sounding Like Douchebags? In asking, however, she wasn’t pointing at men and suggesting they are douchebags so much as she was pointing at all of us and suggesting that we have a tendency to demonize male sexuality. She rightly points out that most of the men who achieve any sort of status and acceptability in writing about sex are somewhere on the gender queer spectrum. Sure, James Deen has a successful blog, but if you read most of the comments on it, there’s this weird anger at him for being a porn star, and enjoying it and writing about it. It is couched in the assumption that he is just doing what every guy in the world would fantasize about doing, because, you know, the only thing straight guys want to do is pound as much pussy as possible.

Puzzling.

I was trying to wrap my head around why that was, and unable to come up with anything really to contradict it, when the incredibly brilliant Sabrina Morgan left the following comment on Facebook:

Cis men are also in the position of the cultural desirer, never the desired; many genuinely believe that since “no one” finds them sexy/since their sexuality is considered threatening, no one wants to hear what they have to say about sex.

God, that woman is brilliant. And she’s right. It is at least possible that women love the likes of Dan Savage because he is in no way threatening to us. I could be drunk, dirty-dancing on his lap and he’d be all like, “bitch, please, put that shit away.” I like to think he’d also give me warm milk and tuck me in, but who knows. The point is, he is no threat to me.

But more than that, he is an ally. He has, time and time again, stood up for the rights of women to have full agency and autonomy over our bodies, spoken out against rape culture, and generally paved the way for an open dialog about human sexuality and our right to it. (Yes, I know there are many people who have serious bones to pick with him, he is not perfect, but on the whole, he is an example of a man who can write about sex without being called a douchebag for doing so.) Charlie Glickman can write about sex and sexuality without being called a douchebag, but he is also widely considered queer, and not a threat to anyone.

But to Sabrina’s point, what of the cisgender men? Specifically, heterosexual cis men? How we read their words has so much to do with what we, as a society, assume about their sexuality and how it manifests. Society seems to have set heterosexuality up as a thing that involves men pursuing, and women either accepting or rejecting—mostly rejecting.

This starts young. I live in Seattle, which is, by any standard, a very progressive city. Many of us do a mommy / daughter sex-ed class at Seattle Children’s Hospital as our daughters get close to starting menstruation. In the session of the class that is less about biology and more about navigating sexuality, the presenter offered the idea that girls would have to start learning how to say “no” to boys who were going to want to touch them sexually.

I looked at my daughter, who sort of rolled her eyes at me. And the woman went on, listing the many ways that girls could rebuff boys. I looked at my daughter again, and she said, “go ahead mom.” And I did. I raised my hand and said, “Can we also talk about how to teach girls to say ‘yes’ to sexuality. Can we teach them that sex is about pleasure for all parties involved, and that learning how to identify and say ‘yes’ to things that give them pleasure is how they learn to draw their boundaries and say ‘no’ to things that don’t.”

She replied that surely I could understand that protecting girls from boys was more important. I told her that I surely did not see it that way.

But it starts that young. Yes, girls are told that boys are predatory and somehow out of control. The corollary there is that boys are told they are predators, and out of control. Therefore, not a desirable thing, but a thing to defend against. From the get-go, we are teaching our kids to fear male sexuality, and to repress female sexuality.

As they age, and their media exposure extends beyond the protective (and crappy) bubble of children’s programming, we see example after example of men having to pull huge gestures to lure women into sex, or catch them, or trick them. Just off the top of my head: In Superbad when one of the guys talks about getting girls drunk enough that they can be “that mistake;” in Spiderman when he shoots a web to catch the girl who said “no” half a dozen times, pulling her in for an epic kiss that leaves them both breathless; in Anchorman when the guy uses a cologne made with “bits of real panther” that “60% of the time works every time” to get the girl. I could go on and on, but that point is that popular culture sets up this idea that men are sexual predators who need to resort to trickery and cologne to fulfill their one and only mission, which is sticking their penis in a girl.

It’s sad. It’s insulting. And it’s damaging.


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This way of looking at male sexuality conflates sexuality with predation. It means that he who posseses sexuality is assumed a predator.

That is obviously damaging to the vast majority of men who simply are not. They want and like sex just as much as the rest of us. However, it’s downright dangerous when you extrapolate that out to situations like the horror of Stubenville. It is this line of thinking that allows people to say, “boys will be boys.” As if this kind of predation is just natural for guys, when in fact it is not normal for guys to be predators. Most men are not predators.

Steubenville, and the way-too-many incidents like it, are not examples of natural male sexuality. There are examples of a violent rape culture than perpetuates the idea that predation is the natural manifestation of sex.

So with this in our mind’s eye, no, it is not possible for us to believe that heterosexual cis men can write about sex without being douchebags. And that breaks my heart. It breaks my heart as someone who loves men, in a whole lot of ways.

You do not need to trick us into sex, in fact, you shouldn’t. And you don’t need a cologne with bits of real panther to attract us. In fact, lay off the stuff, seriously. A little dab’ll do ya.


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So, how can we all work together to change our collective impression of male sexuality as something that is dangerous and disgusting? Besides the obvious—understanding male privilege, dismantling of patriarchal mythology and ending rape culture? Those issues are far too big for me to take on here, but without accomplishing those three, nothing changes. So while we work toward those goals, here are some steps to take along that path:

1. Be an ally. Help us stop the violence against women. I am assuming that none of you would do what happened in Stubenville, but would you have helped stop it? Have you been vocal about how wrong it was? About how that should not represent you or your sexuality? From a societal perspective, we need your help. From a personal perspective, when we feel safe, we let our guards down, and that’s the first step to an intimate connection.

2. Ask women what they want, and listen to what they tell you. We are all different; we all want different things from the men in our life. Rather than getting lost in a frustrated guessing game, ask us. Listen to our answers. Tell us what you want, with words, and listen to our responses. Whether it’s sex or any other relationship, the best way to not be seen as predatory is to not act like a predator. And that means communication, not acquisition. Which, by the way, is also called consent. “Yes” is the safest word of all.

3. Let us in, don’t lure us in. Lay off the cologne, the pick-up lines, and the games. Please. Trust that you do not need to trick people into wanting you. Trust that you are worthy, just as you are. And that you deserve someone who wants you for who you actually are, how you actually are.

4. Don’t take it personally. Your self worth is in no way connected to whether or not some girl (or guy) wants you. I am constantly telling people to “Consider Cilantro.” (Seriously, I need that on a t-shirt.) Some people love cilantro. Some people think that cilantro tastes like tinfoil soaked in dish soap. That in no way reflects on the worthiness of cilantro. And cilantro never takes it personally. If you can, don’t even think of it as rejection, you are just cilantro sometimes. After all, you’re not attracted to every person you meet, why would every person you meet be attracted to you?

5. And lastly, know that your body is beautiful. I, like most females, was warned that penises and balls and anuses were gross. I was told to hold my nose, close my eyes, get it over with. Imagine my disappointment when I saw my first penis and there were no festering boils hissing my name, no sulfurous clouds wafting up from a menacing member. I thought it was kind of cute. As I learned more about them, I grew to love them, in and out. Hell, there are times when I was sure I heard angels giving hummers on high when I’ve see one. Most of us straight chicks really like your bodies. You don’t need to trick us into liking them. That is what makes us straight, after all.

However, they are not lures, and we are not fish. Do not, ever, show them to us unless we ask for it. The bonus for you is that when we ask for it, it’s because we want it, so you aren’t really risking rejection at that point, Mr. Cilantro.


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I am sorry that generations of lazy storytelling and bad media have perpetuated the myths of men as predators and women as victims. Or the idea that women’s purity is what can redeem the nastiness of male sexuality. It is wrong for both men and women alike.

But the only way we’re going to change it is together, and it’s gonna take time. We need to all be better. Oh, hey, I know, we need to come together—if we want to, that is. You can also come alone. Or with someone else. Aint’ no skin off my back, as long as it’s all consensual. And, hopefully, pleasurable.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Michael Douglas: Oral Sex Caused My Throat Cancer

I've seen this more and more in recent years - as human papillomavirus (HPV) becomes more and more prevalent, more and more men who enjoy giving their women oral sex are getting mouth and throat cancers. This is definitely a cautionary tale for men (and lesbian women) - giving cunnilingus can kill us, or at the very least make our lives very uncomfortable.

Michael Douglas: oral sex caused my cancer

Actor reveals to the Guardian that HPV, transmitted through oral sex, was responsible for his throat cancer


Catherine Shoard

The Guardian, Sunday 2 June 2013


Michael Douglas: 'There was a walnut-size tumour at the base of my tongue that no other doctor had seen.' Photograph: APImages/ALIVEpress/Corbis
Michael Douglas – the star of Basic Instinct and Fatal Attraction – has revealed that his throat cancer was apparently caused by performing oral sex.

In a surprisingly frank interview with the Guardian, the actor, now winning plaudits in the Liberace biopic Behind the Candelabra, explained the background to a condition that was thought to be nearly fatal when diagnosed three years ago. Asked whether he now regretted his years of smoking and drinking, usually thought to be the cause of the disease, Douglas replied: "No. Because without wanting to get too specific, this particular cancer is caused by HPV [human papillomavirus], which actually comes about from cunnilingus."

Douglas, the husband of Catherine Zeta Jones, continued: "I did worry if the stress caused by my son's incarceration didn't help trigger it. But yeah, it's a sexually transmitted disease that causes cancer. And if you have it, cunnilingus is also the best cure for it."

The actor, now 68, was diagnosed with cancer in August 2010, following many months of oral discomfort. But a series of specialists missed the tumour and instead prescribed antibiotics. Douglas then went to see a friend's doctor in Montreal who looked inside his mouth using a tongue depressor.

"I will always remember the look on his face," Douglas has previously said. "He said: 'We need a biopsy.' There was a walnut-size tumour at the base of my tongue that no other doctor had seen."

Shortly afterwards he was diagnosed with stage four cancer, which is often terminal, and embarked on an intensive eight-week course of chemotherapy and radiation. He refused to use a feeding tube, despite his palate being burnt on account of the treatment, and so lost 20kg (45lb) on a liquids-only diet. "That's a rough ride. That can really take it out of you," he told the Guardian. "Plus the amount of chemo I was getting, it zaps all the good stuff too. It made me very weak."

The treatment worked and Douglas is now more than two years clear of cancer. He has check-ups every six months, he said, "and with this kind of cancer, 95% of the time it doesn't come back".

The cause of Douglas's cancer had long been assumed to be related to his tobacco habit, coupled with enthusiastic boozing. In 1992, he was hospitalised for an addiction which some at the time claimed to be sex. Douglas himself denied this and said he was in rehab for alcohol abuse. He has also spoken of recreational drug use.

HPV, the sexually transmitted virus best known as a cause of cervical and anal cancer and genital warts, is thought to be responsible for an increasing proportion of oral cancers.

Some suggest that changes in sexual behaviour – a rise in oral sex in particular – are responsible. Such changes might be cultural, but could also be linked to fears about the safety of penetrative sex in the wake of the Aids epidemic.

Mahesh Kumar, a consultant head and neck surgeon in London, confirmed that the last decade has seen a dramatic rise in this form of cancer, particularly among younger sufferers. Recent studies of 1,316 patients with oral cancer found that 57% of them were HPV-16 positive.

"It has been established beyond reasonable doubt that the HPV type 16 is the causative agent in oropharyngeal cancer," said Kumar, who also testified to increased recovery rates among this kind of cancer sufferer. This would help explain why Douglas was given an 80% chance of survival, despite the advanced stage of his illness.

But Kumar expressed scepticism that Douglas's cancer was caused solely by HPV, and surprise at Douglas's assertion that cunnilingus could also help cure the condition. "Maybe he thinks that more exposure to the virus will boost his immune system. But medically, that just doesn't make sense."

Ann Robinson, a GP, expressed interest in how confirmation of this association would affect the rollout of the HPV vaccine, which is currently restricted in the UK. "My main priority with diagnosing a patient with oral cancer is to get them referred, as early intervention can be so crucial. Asking for a detailed sexual history would be inappropriate at that stage."

Douglas has two children, aged 10 and 12, with his second wife, Zeta Jones, as well as an older son, Cameron, from a previous marriage. In 2010, Cameron was sentenced to five years in prison for drugs possession and dealing, and a year later had his sentence extended until 2018 after he pleaded guilty to possessing drugs in prison.

HPV: the facts

  • There are more than 100 variants of HPV (human papillomavirus). They appear in different parts of the body and manifest themselves in different ways – some cause warts, but most are symptomless.
  • Some are spread by skin-to-skin contact, while others are typically spread during sex. When HPV is found in the mouth, it probably got there as a result of oral sex.
  • HPV is common – if you're a sexually active adult, you've probably had it. By the age of 25, 90% of sexually active people will have been exposed to some form of genital HPV.
  • Around 15 types of HPV are linked to increased cancer risk, but it can't be explicitly said to cause any particular cancers. It's a long-term risk factor: over years and decades the risk is increased, rather than overnight.
  • It is calculated that between 25% and 35% of oral cancers are HPV-related – meaning that it seems to be involved in 1,500-2,000 diagnoses a year.
  • Overall, HPV-related oral cancers are most common in heterosexual men in their 40s and 50s.
  • Teenage girls in the UK and elsewhere are now vaccinated against HPV, which should in time both protect them from cervical cancers and – it's believed – future partners from HPV-related oral cancers.

Read Xan Brooks' full interview with Michael Douglas

Here is some more information:

Michael Douglas says cunnilingus gives you cancer – but is he right?

Michael Douglas, who was diagnosed with throat cancer in 2010, says oral sex was the cause. But what's the risk?


James Ball
guardian.co.uk, Sunday 2 June 2013

Michael Douglas Photograph: AAPimages/ALIVEpress/ AAPimages/ALIVEpress/dpa/Corbi

Actors are often accused of being irritatingly reticent about their private lives – unwilling to satisfy fans' and journalists' curiosity about aspects of their life off the film sets.

But that's not something that can be said of Michael Douglas' latest interview, with Xan Brooks, for the Guardian. Asked whether he ascribed his 2010 throat cancer diagnosis to a lifetime of drinking and smoking, he replied particularly frankly:

"No. Because without wanting to get too specific, this particular cancer is caused by HPV [human papillomavirus], which actually comes about from cunnilingus."

"I did worry if the stress caused by my son's incarceration didn't help trigger it. But yeah, it's a sexually transmitted disease that causes cancer. And if you have it, cunnilingus is also the best cure for it."

So, now that's out there, how much of it is true? Is oral sex linked to mouth and throat cancers? Is there a difference between the genders? And what can be done? We've dug into the stats – especially this NHS guide – to dig out a few answers.



HPV and you

There are more than 100 variants of HPV, otherwise known as the human papilloma virus, and they appear in different parts of the body and manifest in different ways – some, for example, can cause warts (including genital warts), while in most cases most appear symptomless.

Some are spread simply by skin-to-skin contact, while others are typically spread during sex. It's these latter types that are typically found in the mouth, suggesting that when HPV is found in the mouth, it's probably got there as a result of oral sex. HPV can also be spread to the relevant areas through vaginal and anal sex.

HPV is really, really common – to the point that if you're a sexually active adult, you've probably had it. By the age of 25, 90% of sexually active people will have been exposed to some form of genital HPV (whether high or low risk), almost none of whom will ever have had any visible warts or other symptoms.


HPV and cancer

Around 15 types of HPV are linked to increased cancer risk, and it's been associated with oral cancers, cervical and vaginal cancers, as well as anal and penile cancers.

HPV increases cancer risk, but can't be explictly said to have caused any particular cancers (though some variants are HPV-related and others not): just because someone with cancer also has HPV doesn't necessarily mean they wouldn't have got it anyway.

It's also a long-term risk factor: over years and decades the risk is increased, rather than overnight.

When it comes to oral cancers, here's a rough guide to the statistics. In 2010, around 6,000 people were diagnosed. For comparison, in 2010 there were also 2,850 diagnoses of cervical cancer and 49,900 diagnoses of breast cancer.

Noting the above caveats, it's calculated that between 25% and 35% of oral cancers are HPV-related – meaning it seems to be involved in somewhere between 1,500 to 2,000 diagnoses a year.

Around 15 types of HPV are linked to increased cancer risk, and it's been associated with oral cancers, cervical and vaginal cancers, as well as anal and penile cancers.

HPV increases cancer risk, but can't be explictly said to have caused any particular cancers (though some variants are HPV-related and others not): just because someone with cancer also has HPV doesn't necessarily mean they wouldn't have got it anyway.

It's also a long-term risk factor: over years and decades the risk is increased, rather than overnight.

When it comes to oral cancers, here's a rough guide to the statistics. In 2010, around 6,000 people were diagnosed. For comparison, in 2010 there were also 2,850 diagnoses of cervical cancer and 49,900 diagnoses of breast cancer.

Noting the above caveats, it's calculated that between 25% and 35% of oral cancers are HPV-related – meaning it seems to be involved in somewhere between 1,500 to 2,000 diagnoses a year.


Men vs women


So – is cunnilingus inherently riskier than fellatio? While studies on sex differences aren't entirely clear, a US study found the prevalence of HPV in the mouths of men was 10%, versus 3.6% for women. Overall, HPV-related oral cancers are most common in heterosexual men in their 40s and 50s, leading the NHS guide to conclude that:

This indicates that performing cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman) is more risky that performing fellatio (oral sex on a man). This seems counterintuitive, but the concentration of HPV in the thinner moist skin of the vulva is mugh higher than the amounts of virus shed from the thicker dry skin of the penis, and this affects how easy it is to pass the virus on.
 

The HPV vaccine


Teenage girls in the UK and elsewhere are now vaccinated against HPV, which should in time both protect themselves from cervical cancers and – it's believed but not yet been demonstrated – future partners from HPV-related oral cancers.

Evidence from Australia suggests things are working, with genital warts (a good short-term proxy) falling markedly in women and heterosexual men in the years after the introduction of a vaccine.

The one group the current vaccination programme does nothing to protect, of course, is men who have sex with men – who are at increased risk of several cancers due to HPV.


So ... smoking's exonerated? 


Douglas used HPV to exonerate smoking for his particular cancer. Unfortunately, the evidence suggests he wasn't quite right to do so. Most people rid themselves of HPV within a few years of catching it – but smoking disrupts this process, meaning the virus remains for far longer in smokers than non-smokers, increasing their risk of HPV-related cancers of all varieties.

Smoking is also, of course, a substantial risk factor for non HPV-related oral cancers, as well as lung cancer.


Staying safe

Unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be much research evidence to back up Douglas' claim that the cure for throat cancer is still more cunnilingus.

One thing that can help, though, is using a condom or a dam during oral sex, the NHS says. It also helps protect against other orally-transmitted STDs too, such as chlamydia and gonorrhoea.

Any other studies or evidence we should've looked at? Anyone got some other good stats on the topic? Let 
us know below...

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Ben Fountain - How to Be a Man (Fiction)


This seems like a wonderful idea . . . more than 100 of the world's best fiction writers contributed stories to the NARRATIVE 4 project, in collaboration with Esquire magazine, on the topic of How to Be a Man.
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Among the authors who contributed are Geoff Dyer, Ben Fountain (his story is below), Terry Tempest Williams, Mona Simpson, Michael Cunningham, Khaled Hosseini, Ian McEwan, Amy Bloom, Roddy Doyle, Salman Rushdie, William Kittredge, Gabriel Byrne, James Frey, and a whole lot more.

How To Be a Man

To help launch Narrative 4, we asked some of the world's greatest writers to chip in with an original story, all with the title "How to Be a Man." The result is the biggest literary event of the year. 106 stories. From 106 writers. Here is Ben Fountain's contribution. For the rest, go to narrative4.com.


By Ben Fountain
Published in the June/July 2013 issue

Andy Friedman

D. Wintermute, corrosion engineer, traversing a two-inch-wide beam in the submarine murk of the Statue of Liberty's cavernous inner shell, wondering how it is that a person could feel claustrophobic in such a monstrously scaled space. So there's that, the shadowy crush of his phobia, plus he's not so fond of heights, either. Outside, the first big storm of the fall is barreling up the Narrows, pounding the Lady with rain and corkscrew gusts. The copper shell knells and echoes, a ponderously dire thoom thoom sort of Middle-Earth sound.

"Danny, your situation, please." His boss, Vistap, coming wireless through Wintermute's headset.

"Situation normal, Vistap."

"Then why are you stopping?"

"Well, it's a long way down."

"Redundancies, Danny. You cannot possibly fall."

No doubt. He's swathed in enough trusses and harnesses to supply a lumberjack-themed S&M party. The play of his headlamp along the shell's inner humps and folds makes him dizzy if he turns his head too fast. He creeps along the steel framework looking for crevice corrosion, oxide crust, anything that might explain the rash that's recently bloomed on the Lady's outer skin, in such a strategically sensitive place as to make America the butt of jokes worldwide. The Statue of Liberty has lost her innocence! This was the joke in its politest form. As the youngest, most agile member of Vistap's team, Wintermute has drawn the task of visual inspection.

Thoom. Thonnngggg. He feels like a bug in a bass drum. He edges all the way out to the ferralium joints, and spreading his fingertips over the statue's copper skin he can feel rain peppering the other side. He rests for a moment, then spiders laterally along the steel armature, aiming for the general vicinity of the Lady's crotch. The original puddled iron and copper saddles of the armature were replaced twenty years ago by stainless steel. Vistap suspects that annealing the steel during construction degraded its corrosion-resistance properties. But a second theory — and this is the one that excites the careerist ambitions of young Wintermute — posits that changes in the environment are affecting standard materials in new and unforeseen ways. Atmospheric corrosion, higher levels of acid deposition — the possibilities are endless. Then he realizes that while his mind has been musing over the science, the rest of his body has been following his nose.

"Danny, where did you go?" Vistap sounds alarmed.

"I'm just — there's a notch down here, a recess of some kind." He's crouching, shining his flashlight under a fold of the Lady's robe. "Weird. I don't remember this from any of the imaging."

"You're breaking up, Danny. Speak more clearly."

But for the moment Wintermute is too absorbed to speak. He's working the problem, shining his flashlight into the mystery slot, which, Jesus, where does it go? The Lady shifts and creaks, rides the wind with low, persistent moans. A burlap funk emanates from the slot, earthy, peaty, high in iron content. It glistens where his light plays along the lip.

"Vistap, I think I found something."

"Yes, Danny. Go ahead."

"This little scoop or hollow, I think they missed it back in the eighties. It looks like coal tar up there."

In fact his light seems not to penetrate at all. Vistap's answer is garbled, then the signal drops completely. Wintermute is light-headed from the smell, vaguely disgusted, yet intrigued. By crouching as low as possible and bending double he could duck under the lip and have a look inside, but the prospect sends primal shivers down his thighs. He feels queasy. He thinks he might throw up. He wishes somebody else would do this part of the job for him, but there is, obviously, no one else.

Failure of nerve is simply not an option, so suck it up, he tells himself. For the sake of honor, for country. To silence all those jeering foreigners. Be a man, he thinks as he ducks and leans forward, and D. Wintermute, corrosion engineer, plunges headfirst into the breach.

Ben Fountain is the author of the short-story collection Brief Encounters with Che Guevara and Billy Lynn's Long Halftime Walk, which won the National Book Critics Circle Award.

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