Volume 6, Number 2: Table of Contents
Published: June 2012Editorial:
- Joseph Gelfer, Mythopoetic Spirituality and Authenticity: A Travelogue (pp. 53-55)
Articles:
- John Farrell Kelly, Entering Water: Sea Lion Shamanism (pp. 56-76)
- Kevin J. Burke, A Space Apart: Kairos and Masculine Possibility in Retreats of Adolescents (pp. 77-93)
- Brandy Schillace, A Man’s Soul and a Fish’s Scale: Sex, Size and Spirit in Moby Dick (pp. 94-105)
Reviews:
- Stephen Hunt, Review of Stefan Horlacher (ed.), Constructions of Masculinity in British Literature from the Middle Ages to the Present (pp. 106-108)
- Sean Brady, Caroline Magennis and Raymond Mullen (eds.), Irish Masculinities: Reflections on Literature and Culture (pp. 109-111)
- Ilya Merlin, Mary Ruth Marotte, Paige Martin Reynolds, and Ralph James Savarese (eds.), Papa PhD: Essays on Fatherhood by Men in the Academy (pp. 112-113)
- Björn Krondorfer, Review of Martina Läubli and Sabrina Sahli (eds.), Männlichkeiten Denken: Aktuelle Perspektiven der kulturwissenschaftlichen Masculinity Studies [Thinking Masculinities: Current Cultural Studies Perspectives on Masculinity Studies] (pp. 114-116)
Monday, August 20, 2012
Journal of Men, Masculinities and Spirituality, Vol. 6, No. 2 (June 2012)
The new issue of Journal of Men, Masculinities and Spirituality, edited by Joseph Gelfer, is now up online and is open access. Table of contents is below.
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Bukowski: Born Into This — The Definitive Documentary on the Hard-Living American Poet (2003)
Charles Bukowski was a mediocre poet and fiction writer. His work was brutally honest and it chronicled, sometimes in excruciating detail, the life he actually lived - painful, wounded, drunken, and more than a little outside the lines. The result body of work sells more books than Jack Kerouac and Ken Kesey.
Open Culture marked his birthday last week with the best biography I have seen about his life.
There is nothing great or exceptional about Bukowski - other than his willingness to lay bare his life on the page. How many of us would be willing to be that raw, that open about our weaknesses and failures? How many of us can turn those dark places into something many people see as art?
Bukowski: Born Into This — The Definitive Documentary on the Hard-Living American Poet (2003)
August 15th, 2012
Neglected to mark the occasion of poet and novelist Charles Bukowski‘s birthday yesterday? Then observe it today with a viewing of the documentary Bukowski: Born Into This. The most in-depth exploration of Bukowski’s life yet committed to film, the movie “is valuable because it provides a face and a voice to go with the work,” wrote Roger Ebert in 2004. “Ten years have passed since Bukowski’s death, and he seems likely to last, if not forever, then longer than many of his contemporaries. He outsells Kerouac and Kesey, and his poems, it almost goes with saying, outsell any other modern poet on the shelf.” A wide range of Bukowski enthusiasts both expected and unexpected appear onscreen: Sean Penn, Tom Waits, Harry Dean Stanton, Black Sparrow Press publisher John Martin, filmmaker Taylor Hackford (director of the earlier documentary titled simply Bukowski), and Bono, to name but a few. “Excerpts are skillfully woven with the reminiscences of former drinking buddies, fellow writers and Bukowski’s second wife, Linda, the keeper of the flame, whom he married in 1985,” wrote Stephen Holden in the New York Times. “Without straining, the film makes a strong case for Bukowski as a major American poet whose work was a slashing rebuke to polite academic formalism.”
Some might contrarily consider Bukowski’s writing glorified wallowing, a mere profane exultation of the low life, but Born Into This reveals that the man wrote as he lived and lived as he wrote, omitting neither great embarrassment nor minor triumph. Holden mentions that Bukowski, “a pariah in high school, suffered from severe acne vulgaris, which covered his face with running sores that left his skin deeply pitted. He recalls standing miserably in the dark outside his senior prom, too humiliated to show himself,” and that for all his work dealing with late-life sexual prowess, “he was a virgin until he was 24, the same age at which his first story was published. His description of sexual initiation with an obese woman whom he wrongly accused of stealing his wallet is a spectacularly unpromising beginning to the prolific sexual activity (described in his novel “Women”) that flowered after fame brought admirers.” Ebert asks the obvious question: “How much was legend, how much was pose, how much was real?” Then he answers it: “I think it was all real, and the documentary suggests as much. There were no shields separating the real Bukowski, the public Bukowski and the autobiographical hero of his work. They were all the same man. Maybe that’s why his work remains so immediate and affecting: The wounded man is the man who writes, and the wounds he writes about are his own.”
You can find Born Into This listed in the Documentaries section of our collection of 500 Free Movies Online, or purchase your own copy on Amazon here.
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Friday, August 17, 2012
The Effects of Early Exposure to Sexual Material
The human brain is not designed to deal with issues of sex and sexuality until the body hits puberty, and even then we are far too emotionally immature (at least in our culture) to handle sexuality respectfully and responsibly. But with the incredible quantity and availability of internet porn, children are being exposed to sexuality far earlier than is healthy developmentally.
We know that early sexualization through incest and molestation changes how a child relates to others and how the child understands their value as a person. These kids (not all of them, of course) often define their relational worth in terms of sexuality, leading to all kinds of issues.
Early exposure to porn is not likely to produce such extreme outcomes, but it tends - according to some studies - to generate earlier sexual activity than in those who do not view porn. It also creates very unrealistic expectations for what sex is like and, among boys, for how women relate sexually. Hint: It's not like it is in the porn clips.
I would never advocate banning porn, but I would definitely advocate that parents be more actively involved in teaching their children about sex and sexuality - don't leave it up to the schools, the church, or the older kids on the playground. Take responsibility for teaching your children about this sensitive issue.
This article is from Psychology Today's blog section - by Carolyn C. Ross, M.D., M.P.H. on her Real Healing blog.
Overexposed and Under-Prepared: The Effects of Early Exposure to Sexual Content
Is the Internet impacting sexual development?
Published on August 13, 2012 by Carolyn C. Ross, M.D., M.P.H. in Real Healing
“They grow up so fast,” parents often lament. Today, children are being sexualized earlier and earlier, in part because they are exposed to sexual material in movies, television, music and other media earlier than ever. With widespread access to the Internet, curious teens may accidentally or intentionally be exposed to millions of pages of material that is uncensored, sexually explicit, often inaccurate and potentially harmful.
So what? If kids don’t understand it, how can they be affected by it? Even if young children can’t understand sex or its role in relationships, the images they see can leave a lasting impression. It’s a basic premise of marketing that what we watch, read and direct our attention toward influences our behavior. And, as any marketer knows, sex sells. That’s why we see products and services that have nothing to do with sex being marketed in increasingly sexualized ways.
Children as young as 8 and 9 are coming across sexually explicit material on the Internet and in other media. Although research is just beginning to assess the potential damage, there is reason to believe that early exposure to sexual content may have the following undesirable effects:
Early Sex. Research has long established that teens who watch movies or listen to music that glamorizes drinking, drug use or violence tend to engage in those behaviors themselves. A 2012 study shows that movies influence teens’ sexual attitudes and behaviors as well. The study, published in Psychological Science, found that the more teens were exposed to sexual content in movies, the earlier they started having sex and the likelier they were to have casual, unprotected sex.
In another study, boys who were exposed to sexually explicit media were three times more likely to engage in oral sex and intercourse two years after exposure than non-exposed boys. Young girls exposed to sexual content in the media were twice as likely to engage in oral sex and one and a half times more likely to have intercourse. Research also shows that teens who listened to music with degrading sexual references were more likely to have sex than those who had less exposure.
Why are teens more likely to have sex after being exposed to sexual content in the media? Just as we read specific books and show educational movies to our children in hopes that they learn lessons from the characters, the media provides a type of sex education to young people. Media messages normalize early sexual experimentation and portray sex as casual, unprotected and consequence-free, encouraging sexual activity long before children are emotionally, socially or intellectually ready.
High-Risk Sex. The earlier a child is exposed to sexual content and begins having sex, the likelier they are to engage in high-risk sex. Research shows that children who have sex by age 13 are more likely to have multiple sexual partners, engage in frequent intercourse, have unprotected sex and use drugs or alcohol before sex. In a study by researcher Dr. Jennings Bryant, more than 66 percent of boys and 40 percent of girls reported wanting to try some of the sexual behaviors they saw in the media (and by high school, many had done so), which increases the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
Sex, Love and Relationship Addictions. Not every child who is exposed to sexual content will struggle with a mental health disorder, but research shows that early exposure to pornography is a risk factor for sex addictions and other intimacy disorders. In one study of 932 sex addicts, 90 percent of men and 77 percent of women reported that pornography was a factor in their addiction. With the widespread availability of explicit material on the Internet, these problems are becoming more prevalent and are surfacing at younger ages.
Sexual Violence. According to some studies, early exposure (by age 14) to pornography and other explicit material may increase the risk of a child becoming a victim of sexual violence or acting out sexually against another child. For some people, habitual use of pornography may prompt a desire for more violent or deviant material, including depictions of rape, torture or humiliation. If people seek to act out what they see, they may be more likely to commit sexual assault, rape or child molestation.
Preserving Our Children’s Youth
Early exposure to sexual content in the media may have a profound impact on children’s values, attitudes and behaviors toward sex and relationships. Unfortunately, media portrayals do not always reflect the message parents want to send. Here are a few ways that you as a parent can ensure your message is heard:
For most families, banning media from the home isn’t a realistic option. After all, most 8- to 18-year-olds devote an average of seven and a half hours to media in a typical day, according to a 2009 study by the Kaiser Family Foundation, and more than half of that content contains sexual images or references. The goal isn’t to avoid the issue, but to approach it head-on so that your children learn about sex and relationships from their most trusted source: you.
- Know what your children are watching, playing and listening to and take advantage of teachable moments to discuss any inappropriate content or behaviors with them.
- Set and enforce limits around screen time.
- Make use of Internet filters and parental controls.
- Share your family’s values and expectations regarding sex and relationships.
- Talk to your child about media representations of sex, relationships and gender roles and teach them to question the accuracy and intent of the messages they receive.
- Model healthy, respectful relationships and self-worth.
Thursday, August 16, 2012
The Last Word: Aaron Sorkin
From Men's Journal, an interview with one of my favorite writer/directors, Aaron Sorkin. He was writer and creator of The West Wing and Sports Night, writer of The American President (which is where the idea for The West Wing came from), and writer of The Social Network, among many other credits.
The Last Word: Aaron Sorkin
By Sean Woods Aug 2012
The 'Newsroom' creator on writing, regret, and the one thing that lives up to the hype.
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What advice would you give to younger you?
To try to enjoy things a little more and not be so nervous about everything. I would give a lot of advice because I've made a lot of mistakes. Certainly I'd tell myself not to try drugs. Once you do that, you're going to change the trajectory of your life in a terrible way.
Don't drugs help the creative process, at least for a time?
Yeah. If we're going to have a really honest conversation about this, drugs haven't hurt my record collection any. My big fear when I quit drugs was that I wouldn't be able to write anymore. Because if you're a writer and you're on a roll – and I was on a roll when I was high – you don't want to change anything about the way you work. But I'm 11 years clean now, and I've been much more productive in those 11 years than I was in the 11 years prior. But even if I hadn't been, it wouldn't have been worth it.
What motivates you?
My biggest motivation is that I love writing. And I love putting on a show. Also, fear of failure is a huge motivation. About a year and a half ago, I won the Oscar, and I walked off stage and was taken through a labyrinth of press rooms, and I don't think five minutes had gone by before I thought to myself, "Oh, shit...I have to do this every time now, or it's a failure."
What's the best way to end a relationship?
I've had to end a few. I have a fantastic divorce. Julia, my ex-wife, and I split up when our daughter Roxy was only five months old, so her parents living apart is the only life she's ever known. We don't pass her back and forth, there's no schedule. We often do things as a family. We take vacations together, we go out to dinner together. We hang out together. I consider myself extremely lucky that I have this kind of divorce. So whatever we did is the way to do it.
How has being a dad changed you?
Being a father is the only thing that lives up to the hype. When I'm with my daughter – when we're doing homework together or hanging out watching a movie or kicking a soccer ball around or doing any of the things that we do – that's the only time that I feel like I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. When I'm with Roxy, it's a great relief to no longer be the most important thing in my life.
How does a man know when someone is bullshitting him?
Here's the problem: When someone's bullshitting you, they're usually telling you something you want to hear, so you don't want it to be bullshit, and so you haven't turned on your bullshit detector. Which is why, when you can find people who are honest with you, you should stay close to them.
What's the one thing every man should experience before he dies?
Well, love, for sure, and a steak at Peter Luger's.
How should a man grow old?
The trick is that it's pretty easy to get angry at youth because you're so envious of it. They've got so much more of their life left. They've got more energy than you do, the world is kind of calibrated toward them. Skip that. It's not going to do any good.
What do Americans not understand about Hollywood?
You know, it always kind of cracks me up when the Right feels that Hollywood is anti-America. No industry has come closer to creating the illusion of that America than Hollywood has. We're the ones who created the idea of pioneering the West with John Wayne. We're the ones who created the image of a nuclear American family where everybody's happy. We did all that. You have the image of America that you have because we invented it and put it on a screen.
How should a man handle regret?
Oh, gosh, regret is the worst. There's a lot of things in my life that I regret, but if I could find a way to draw a line from that thing to my daughter, and say, "If it hadn't been for that stupid thing, I never would've done this stupid thing, which led me to this good thing, which led me to Roxy." Then I feel great. Then I don't care.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Living with Your Gender Fluid Son
Last week, The New York Times Magazine ran a story called What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress? Very interesting stuff . . . and no doubt challenging for any parents who have a son who likes to wear dresses.
I know a young man in his 20s who is gender fluid - he wears make-up, fingernail polish, and feminine shirts, but usually pants or shorts. When he goes out, he'll wear a dress and a wig. I can't imagine him being any other way - this is who he is and he is comfortable with it.
As the author of the article points out in an interview below, this is the first generation of boys who have been given ANY freedom to dress how they desire. And even though more parents are open to allowing their sons to express their gender fluidity, many, many more are not.
Hopefully this will continue to change and there will be a day when we can all be free to express our gender however it feels comfortable to us, without fear or judgment.
Here is the beginning of this very interesting article, followed by an interview with the author, and hen a Dads Unplugged podcast about the article.
I know a young man in his 20s who is gender fluid - he wears make-up, fingernail polish, and feminine shirts, but usually pants or shorts. When he goes out, he'll wear a dress and a wig. I can't imagine him being any other way - this is who he is and he is comfortable with it.
As the author of the article points out in an interview below, this is the first generation of boys who have been given ANY freedom to dress how they desire. And even though more parents are open to allowing their sons to express their gender fluidity, many, many more are not.
Hopefully this will continue to change and there will be a day when we can all be free to express our gender however it feels comfortable to us, without fear or judgment.
Here is the beginning of this very interesting article, followed by an interview with the author, and hen a Dads Unplugged podcast about the article.
What’s So Bad About a Boy Who Wants to Wear a Dress?
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Above, a boy prepares for a fashion show at a camp for gender-variant children and their families. More Photos »
By RUTH PADAWER
Published: August 8, 2012
The night before Susan and Rob allowed their son to go to preschool in a dress, they sent an e-mail to parents of his classmates. Alex, they wrote, “has been gender-fluid for as long as we can remember, and at the moment he is equally passionate about and identified with soccer players and princesses, superheroes and ballerinas (not to mention lava and unicorns, dinosaurs and glitter rainbows).” They explained that Alex had recently become inconsolable about his parents’ ban on wearing dresses beyond dress-up time. After consulting their pediatrician, a psychologist and parents of other gender-nonconforming children, they concluded that “the important thing was to teach him not to be ashamed of who he feels he is.” Thus, the purple-pink-and-yellow-striped dress he would be wearing that next morning. For good measure, their e-mail included a link to information on gender-variant children.
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When Alex was 4, he pronounced himself “a boy and a girl,” but in the two years since, he has been fairly clear that he is simply a boy who sometimes likes to dress and play in conventionally feminine ways. Some days at home he wears dresses, paints his fingernails and plays with dolls; other days, he roughhouses, rams his toys together or pretends to be Spider-Man. Even his movements ricochet between parodies of gender: on days he puts on a dress, he is graceful, almost dancerlike, and his sentences rise in pitch at the end. On days he opts for only “boy” wear, he heads off with a little swagger. Of course, had Alex been a girl who sometimes dressed or played in boyish ways, no e-mail to parents would have been necessary; no one would raise an eyebrow at a girl who likes throwing a football or wearing a Spider-Man T-shirt.
There have always been people who defy gender norms. Late-19th-century medical literature described female “inverts” as appallingly straightforward, with a “dislike and sometimes incapacity for needlework” and “an inclination and taste for the sciences”; male inverts were “entirely averse to outdoor games.” By the mid-20th century, doctors were trying “corrective therapy” to extinguish atypical gender behaviors. The goal was preventing children from becoming gay or transgender, a term for those who feel they were born in the wrong body.Many parents and clinicians now reject corrective therapy, making this the first generation to allow boys to openly play and dress (to varying degrees) in ways previously restricted to girls — to exist in what one psychologist called “that middle space” between traditional boyhood and traditional girlhood. These parents have drawn courage from a burgeoning Internet community of like-minded folk whose sons identify as boys but wear tiaras and tote unicorn backpacks. Even transgender people preserve the traditional binary gender division: born in one and belonging in the other. But the parents of boys in that middle space argue that gender is a spectrum rather than two opposing categories, neither of which any real man or woman precisely fits.“It might make your world more tidy to have two neat and separate gender possibilities,” one North Carolina mother wrote last year on her blog, “but when you squish out the space between, you do not accurately represent lived reality. More than that, you’re trying to ‘squish out’ my kid.”
Read the whole article. So far, the article has generated 853 comments - and a follow-up interview with the author of the article. Here is a big chunk of that interview, which I think is helpful in understanding the article.
Finally, the Dads Unplugged podcast also decided to discuss this article - and here is that post.Behind the Cover Story: Ruth Padawer on Parenting Boys Who Dress Up As Girls
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Ruth Padawer, who teaches at the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism, wrote this week’s cover article on boys who like to dress up as girls. Her last article for the magazine was on reducing a pregnancy with twins to a single fetus.
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What was your first impression when you went from reading about gender-variant kids in forums online and talking to their parents to meeting the kids themselves?
I learned a lot from these kids. Their conviction — that it was fine to be a boy and do things typically restricted to girls — felt very deep-seated and compelling. It forced me to examine my initial disorientation at seeing a boy in a glittery “girly” outfit while insisting he felt like a boy. These pink boys offer us an opportunity to think about what gender is, what purpose it serves and why it’s been a central way of identifying someone.
The children you quote in your article seemed to find their behavior totally natural, and it was the parents who had to adjust. But aren’t there kids who crumple under pressure from their parents to behave in a more “normal” way?
I didn’t talk to kids who yielded to their parents’ pressure to conform, though surely they’re out there; just look at Catherine Tuerk — whom I wrote about — whose son tried to fit the bill. The data suggests that whether or not their parents pressure them, most “pink boys” will become significantly more gender conforming by age 10. It’s hard to know whether that’s a natural development or if it’s because they’re yielding to social pressure. Researchers themselves are uncertain.
Even the parents who consider themselves very liberal were still uncomfortable when their boys reached for dresses. Was there any factor that seemed to lead parents to accept and even encourage gender-variant behavior?
I don’t think there was any one thing. For many, it was seeing how miserable their kids were when forced to conform — and seeing how peaceful their children were when allowed to be themselves. Of course, finding support from therapists and other parents helped a lot, not only with the big picture questions — do I suppress or support this? — but with smaller decisions too. Do I let my son wear a dress to Aunt Susie’s Thanksgiving dinner so he’ll be happy, or do I prohibit it so Grandpa will be happy? Whose needs should be given more importance? What compromises are possible?
Have therapists who counsel parents on this become more accepting of gender-variant children because of changes in society, or was it some kind of theoretical shift in the field of psychology?
Therapists live in the same world that parents do, and I suspect they’ve both been quite affected by the greater visibility and acceptance of gays and transgendered folks over the last few years. Also, as more clinicians published articles and essays questioning the industry’s status quo, more of their colleagues became aware of the debate in the field.
Have gay rights advocates become actively involved in this issue?
Gay rights groups have gotten increasingly involved in the fight to expand legal protections to other sexual or gender minorities. But the change on the ground level — the social acceptance part — seems somewhat more organic, as the culture has become increasingly aware of the diversity in our society.
What If Your Boy Likes To Wear A Dress?
Posted on 15 August 2012
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The first time you laid eyes on your son, what went through your mind? Have you imagined playing together? Have you imagined playing with dolls, dressing up and having tea parties? No Dad imagines that but many find that is what happens when their boys grow up wanting to be like a girls. In a recent NY Times article, this issue was discussed at length. Todd and Kent had their own chat about what to Di when your son wants to be like a girl.
Do you force your child to be something they’re not? Do you let them go to school in dresses and wear wigs? Much of this episode focuses on this, while there is also a larger discussion about how we as Dads can be even better.
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
If a Guy Tells You He Was Sexually Abused…
Important . . . from The Good Men Project. A lot of boys and men are afraid to tell anyone about the abuse they have suffered for some or all of the reasons mentioned below. That should NEVER be the case. We need to educate people that boys and men are also survivors of abuse . . . and it makes them no less manly, no less straight, and not in any way deserving of shame or judgment.
If a Guy Tells You He Was Sexually Abused…
A great new viral infographic from Just Tell for Facebook is spreading the word about the ways in which male survivors of sexual abuse are often regarded. It also offers the information tat 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused by the age of 18 – a startling statistic.
The mission of JustTell is to empower youth to disclose sexual abuse to a trusted adult.
Please visit Just Tell’s Facebook page, and to learn more about the ways in which Just Tell helps teenagers cope with abuse and figure out who to talk to, visit their website, JustTell.org
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Monday, August 13, 2012
Alexandra Sifferlin - WHY Stressed-Out Men Prefer Heavier Women
The other day I posted a research summary showing that stressed-out men prefer larger women. I speculated about skinny women being less likely survive is things are tough, with stress being an indicator that things are tough.
So now Alexandra Sifferlin at Time Magazine tells us just exactly WHY men who under stress prefer heavier women (I was pretty close to what one might suspect the evolutionary psychology people would propose).
A little more context for this study. Until the 1960s or so, skinny women were not considered attractive. Women with curves and a little "meat on their bones" were the ideal of beauty, like Jane Russell in the image above, or Rita Hayworth (below).
Going back to before the 20th century, being skinny signified poverty, whereas being heavier was a sign of wealth and prosperity. Likewise, being pale showed that one did not need to go outside to work, whereas having a tan meant one was so poor that s/he had to work in the sun.
When we look back at the history of Western art, especially at the portraits that so many artists did to earn a living, the patrons who paid for those portraits were all plump by our standards. The models who posed nude for painters were generally much thinner than the patrons (compare the women in the Renoir painting below to the obviously affluent woman in the Rembrandt). Again, having some heft was associated with wealth (and power).
The point is that our fascination with skinny women is recent - and very short-lived within the history of human desire. It's not likely that this is yet a "real" preference - give it another few decades and we'll see if it persists.
We (men) have preferred shapely women for a few millennia, now. Given that is likely still a psychological default mode, under stress we will tend to fall back into our default modes of behavior and beliefs (a kind of regression). Preferring larger women when stressed might simply be indicative that this is what we prefer in general, and it's only a socially constructed preference that we experience for skinny women.
So now Alexandra Sifferlin at Time Magazine tells us just exactly WHY men who under stress prefer heavier women (I was pretty close to what one might suspect the evolutionary psychology people would propose).
Jane Russell (1950s)
A little more context for this study. Until the 1960s or so, skinny women were not considered attractive. Women with curves and a little "meat on their bones" were the ideal of beauty, like Jane Russell in the image above, or Rita Hayworth (below).
Rita Hayworth (1940s)
Going back to before the 20th century, being skinny signified poverty, whereas being heavier was a sign of wealth and prosperity. Likewise, being pale showed that one did not need to go outside to work, whereas having a tan meant one was so poor that s/he had to work in the sun.
When we look back at the history of Western art, especially at the portraits that so many artists did to earn a living, the patrons who paid for those portraits were all plump by our standards. The models who posed nude for painters were generally much thinner than the patrons (compare the women in the Renoir painting below to the obviously affluent woman in the Rembrandt). Again, having some heft was associated with wealth (and power).
Rembrandt - Young Woman with a Fan (1632)
Renoir - The Bathers (1887)
The point is that our fascination with skinny women is recent - and very short-lived within the history of human desire. It's not likely that this is yet a "real" preference - give it another few decades and we'll see if it persists.
We (men) have preferred shapely women for a few millennia, now. Given that is likely still a psychological default mode, under stress we will tend to fall back into our default modes of behavior and beliefs (a kind of regression). Preferring larger women when stressed might simply be indicative that this is what we prefer in general, and it's only a socially constructed preference that we experience for skinny women.
Why Stressed-Out Men Prefer Heavier Women
Most men prefer leggy and lean women, Gisele Bündchen lookalikes, right? Not necessarily. In fact, the body type that a man finds attractive can change depending on his environment and circumstances, a new study finds: when under stress, for instance, men prefer heavier women.
The study, published in the journal PLoS ONE, reports that when men were placed in stressful situations, then asked to rate the attractiveness of women of varying body sizes, they tended to prefer beefier frames, compared with unstressed men whose tastes skewed thinner.
“This suggests that our body size preferences are not innate, but are flexible,” said study co-author Martin Tovée of Newcastle University in the U.K., in an email, noting that they may be influenced by our particular environment and resources.
The findings fall in line with evolutionary theories that suggest when resources are scarce or unpredictable, a woman’s thin physique may signal illness, frailty and the inability to reproduce. Indeed, Tovée and colleague Viren Swami of the University of Westminster in London have previously found that men under trying conditions — like extreme hunger — tend to rate heavier women as more attractive. The researchers suggest also that underlying biological mechanisms, such as blood sugar and hormone levels, are major players in how we perceive our surroundings.
“Our work in parts of Malaysia and Africa has shown that in poorer environments where resources are scarce, people prefer a heavy body in a potential partner,” said Tovée. “If you live in an environment where food is scarce, being heavier means you have fat stored up as a buffer against a potential food reduction in the future, and that you must be higher social status to afford the food in the first place. Both of these are attractive qualities in a partner in those circumstances.”
Moving from a low-resource environment to a richer one, like the U.K. or the U.S., can cause a shift in these preferences, says Tovée, and to test the theory further, the researchers recruited some male volunteers and manipulated their stress levels — a key problem for people living in poor environments.
The study examined 81 heterosexual men, about half of whom underwent the Trier Social Stress Test. In the test, the men participated in an impromptu job interview in front of four interviewers. They were asked them to “sell” themselves for five minutes, and then calculate answers to simple math problems under time pressure.
Afterward, all the study participants were shown images of 10 women with body types ranging from emaciated to obese and were asked to rank them based on their attractiveness.
The images were numbered on a scale of 1 to 10 based on the women’s body mass index (BMI), with 1 representing very thin and 10 obese. The largest body size rated attractive by the stressed-out men was 7.17, which fell in the overweight category. The largest body type deemed attractive by the unstressed control group was 6.25, which was considered normal on the BMI scale.
Overall, stressed men preferred a bigger body — their “ideal” figure was a 4.44 — than the unstressed men, who idealized a thinner body type, at 3.90. Stressed-out men not only rated heavier women as more attractive, but they also gave higher ratings to a wider range of body types overall.
“This shift suggests that stress alters what you find attractive in a potential partner, and it is another factor helping you to optimize the fit of your partner preferences to your environment,” said Tovée.
Understanding how body preferences may change or be influenced by circumstance also sheds light on the development of warped body image, the authors say. “People suffering from conditions such as anorexia nervosa have a distorted perception of body size and body ideals, and it’s important that research focus on the mechanisms underlying and influencing the perception of body size,” says Tovée.
Despite our media’s seeming reverence for size-zero models and ripped muscle men, it may help people suffering from eating disorders and other body-image problems to know that such body “ideals” are not exactly ideal after all. “The information from this article could be useful in therapy of anxiety and eating disorders,” Dr. Igor Galynker, associate chairman of the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Beth Israel Medical Center, told ABC News. “The information could be an alternative to thoughts such as, ‘I am fat; no man would find me attractive.’”
Sunday, August 12, 2012
Henry Rollins: Education Will Restore A Vigorous Democracy
Henry Rollins has become a regular voice at Big Think, for which we can all be grateful. It's hard to name another man who has self-created his own life in the same manner as Rollins. Best known as the lead singer of the seminal punk band Blag Flag, he has recreated himself several times since that band's demise.
Black Flag continually challenged their audience's expectations for the band and, as the lead singer, Rollins took the brunt of their rage, which was often physical violence. Rollins typically responded in kind, pulling audience members on stage and beating them. As he matured, however, and became more educated and more politically active, he channeled that anger into activism. In a 2010 interview, he said, "This is where my anger takes me, to places like this [Bhopal, India] not into abuse but into proactive, clean movement".[68]
First with the Rollins Band, then with his own record label and publishing company, with prolific spoken word performances and as the host a various radio shows, he also began acting in films and TV shows, was named Details Magazine's Man of the Year in 1994, and political activism, promoting LGBT rights, World Hunger Relief, an end to war, and touring with the United Service Organizations to entertain American troops (beginning in 2003 with the Iraq War).
All the while, he was becoming incredibly self-educated.
It's not at all surprising then to hear Rollins say the education is the key to having a real and vigorous democracy . . . and to reducing prison populations, which are mostly men.
Henry Rollins: Education Will Restore A Vigorous Democracy
Daniel Honan on August 12, 2012According to Henry Rollins, education is the great leveler of the playing field, which is why the punk rocker says that elites are fearful of it. What would happen if our educational system did succeed in leveling the playing field? According to Rollins, for one thing, the prison population will plummet.
The temptation to rob a liquor store, for instance, would be greatly reduced, Rollins says, if our schools succeeded in teaching all students aptitude -- the ability to learn. That means "someone can open any book and have the ability to obtain knowledge."
What other benefits would reinventing education have?
Rollins says that democracy would be a much more vigorous thing. "We would expect much more of our politicians," he says, "and Thomas Jefferson would finally stop rolling in his grave."
Watch the video here:
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Friday, August 10, 2012
Rebecca Hazleden - Dragon-slayers and Jealous Rats: The Gendered Self in Contemporary Self-help Manuals
This is an intriguing essay from Rebecca Hazelden that appeared in the March, 2011, issue of the Cultural Studies Review Journal. Hazeldon looks at some of the variations of the gendered self that one finds in self-help books and argues that they are more accurately seen as political variations of the nature of the self than representations of patriarchal vs. feminist gender roles.
I don't agree with some of her assertions, but in general this is a better approach than to see everything as gendered - sometimes gender beliefs reflect more about political agendas than anything else.
Dragon-slayers and Jealous Rats: The Gendered Self in Contemporary Self-help Manuals
Rebecca Hazleden
Abstract
This article traces two broad discourses concerning gender in a selection of relationship manuals from 1974 to 2004. On the one hand are manuals promoting traditional gender roles, and on the other are those that promote financial and emotional independence for women.(1) In contrast to other analyses, I argue that these approaches cannot be categorised into a simplistic dichotomy of ‘feminist’ and ‘patriarchal,’ but that they are better understood as being bound up with conservative and liberal discourses of the self. I further demonstrate that these approaches both assume and require types of self that are somewhat removed from their historical antecedents and should be understood as neo variants.
Full Citation:
Hazelden, R. (2011, Mar). Dragon-slayers and Jealous Rats: The Gendered Self in Contemporary Self-help Manuals. Cultural Studies Review, Vol 17, No 1; pp. 270–95.
The abstract also functions as the first paragraph of the paper, so here are the next two paragraphs, which form a bit of an introduction.
Here are a few more paragraphs that get into the role of feminism in self-help - and how this becomes a political issue as much as or more than a psychological self-help issue.Although the term ‘bestseller’ is hard to define, it is likely that each book in this study at some point held the position of best‐selling therapeutic relationship manual in the United States, and often also throughout the world.(2) By ‘therapeutic relationship manual’, I mean a book grounded in popular psychology that has the putative aim of aiding the reader in developing and managing more harmonious and fulfilling intimate romantic relationships. This is a popular format that encompasses hundreds of new titles each year, as well as having produced some of the enduring classics of self‐help—the therapeutic relationship manuals in this study are all still in print, with the exception of Marabel Morgan’s The Total Woman. Books offering advice on finding a partner were excluded, as were dating, etiquette, household‐management and sex manuals.(3) There is a certain amount of diversity between these books and I do not claim that all relationship manuals fall into the two categories used here, or that all books within a category are consistent with each other. Neither do I imply that readers simply accept and absorb the intended messages within these texts. Numerous studies have been made demonstrating that women read sceptically, interpretively and resistingly.(4) Nonetheless, the unabated proliferation of self‐help books and the saturation of our culture by psy truths tell us something important about our values, both on the societal level and, as self‐help books are increasingly translated into numerous languages and spread across the world, at a global level as well.(5) As Elias has pointed out, an advice book has to relay a message with which its audience can identify.(6) In other words, the prescriptions and proscriptions within self‐help are ‘already constituted’ realities for the readers.(7)
It is also important to acknowledge that women overwhelmingly constitute the readership. Relationship manuals are usually aimed at women and women are more likely to purchase and read them.(8) Some self‐help authors even assert that men are uninterested in self‐help: ‘Men don’t read magazines like Psychology Today, Self, or People’ because ‘they are more concerned with outdoor activities, like hunting, fishing, and racing cars … and couldn’t care less about … self‐help books’.(9) One author includes a small section, near the end of his book, which he encourages his readers to show to their partners and begins ‘I’m assuming that this letter is the first thing you’re reading in this book … give me three minutes to talk to you man to man’.(10) That the presumed audience is gendered is of crucial importance, because the ‘injunction to understand one’s life,’ or one’s self, ‘ for example as an autonomous individual … can come to mean something entirely different when we look across the designations of ... gender and sexuality.(11)
In the 1970s, a new feminist model of sexuality began to appear—that of individualistic sexual autonomy. Sex manuals began to focus on the private sexual experience of women: ‘It is a very self‐centred experience … your focus must be solely on your sexual stimuli and whatever increases it’; ‘you must assume responsibility for your own sexual pleasure’.28 This outlook saw orgasm as a right, and a product of learning, not of instinct. It was argued at the time that placing a strong emphasis on non‐coital techniques rendered the man dispensable to female pleasure, further reinforcing women’s sexual independence.29 This latter view politicises female sexual autonomy, on a model of sex among equals.30 Sex began to be understood as part of the total life experience—competence and independence in sexuality were to be attained as part of a broader, more general social pattern, and sex manuals promised that this type of sexuality would pay off in other areas of life as well.31 These sexual relations both reflected and produced more general cultural attitudes and values, stripping away the moral, sentimental and romantic notions that had surrounded female sexuality. They made respectable the unmarried sexually active woman, giving women more freedom to leave unsatisfactory partners.32 At the same time, however, women became obliged to be actively sexual beings in a way that they had not before.33 That is, women were now obliged to be free with their sexuality—competent, skilled, proficient in their own pleasure, multi‐orgasmic—and open to new pathologies of frigidity, emotional over‐sensitivity, dependence and sexual dysfunction. These new capacities required new interventions: self‐interrogation, self‐examination and work upon the self.34 Indeed, the obligation to work on oneself was adopted by many feminist writers, such as Susie Orbach, for whom feminist self‐improvement and self‐liberation included investigating, nurturing and developing the inner self.35
By the late 1980s, self‐regard and self‐liberation had become an imperative in self‐help to the extent that women who did not prioritise their own self‐fulfilment were characterised as psychologically disordered—’loving too much’ or co‐dependent.36 I have discussed this phenomenon elsewhere, but will mention that co‐dependence can be characterised as a pathologisation of femininity, or as a reverse discourse with the potential to liberate women from positions of subordination.37 In this latter view, women use expertise to liberate themselves in opposition to their putative feminine nature—or at least to furnish themselves with a limited space in which they can refuse to play their appropriate gendered role.38
In her classic study of relationship manuals, Hochschild bemoans the tendency of 1980s and 1990s’ self‐help to exercise a general ‘paradigm of [emotional] caution’. She suggests that feminism may be ‘escaping from the cage’ of a social movement, to endorse and develop a capitalist ethos of private life that is foreign to its original aims and that is emotionally barren. She argues they allow ‘the worst of capitalist culture to establish the cultural basis of the struggle for equality’.39 While Hochschild sees a paradox between what she calls the emotional ‘warmth’ and the ‘patriarchy’ of the ‘traditional’ books, and is surprised by the emotional ‘coolness’ of the approach she calls ‘feminist’, these are part of a long tradition of such tensions within the debate about the nature and role of women—a point to which I shall return.
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Stressed Out Men Prefer Full-Bodied Women
Not sure what the significance of this study is, but it's interesting. If I had to make an evolutionary guess, I'd wager that slightly larger women signify health and resilience while skinny, model types seem rather frail and not adaptable to stress.
You can read the whole paper at the link below - it's from the open source PLOS ONE.
The Impact of Psychological Stress on Men's Judgements of Female Body Size
Viren Swami, Martin J. Tovée
Abstract
Background
Previous work has suggested that the experience of psychological stress may influence physical attractiveness ideals, but most evidence in favour of this hypothesis remains archival. The objective of this study was to experimentally investigate the impact of stress on men's judgements of female body size.
Methods
Men were randomly assigned to either an experimental group, in which they took part in a task that heightened stress (experimental group, n = 41) or in which they did not take part in such a task (control group, n = 40). Both groups rated the attractiveness of female bodies varying in size from emaciated to obese, completed a measure of appetite sensation, and had their body mass indices (BMIs) measured.
Results
Between-groups analyses showed that the experimental group was matched with the control group in terms of mean age, BMI, and appetite sensation. Further analyses showed that men in the experimental group rated a significantly heavier female body size as maximally attractive than the control group. Men in the experimental group also rated heavier female bodies as more attractive and idealised a wider range of female figures than did the control group.
Conclusion
This study found that the experience of stress was associated with a preference among men for heavier female body sizes. These results indicate that human attractiveness judgements are sensitive to variations in local ecologies and reflect adaptive strategies for dealing with changing environmental conditions.
Citation: Swami V, Tovée MJ. (2012). The Impact of Psychological Stress on Men's Judgements of Female Body Size. PLoS ONE 7(8):
e42593.
doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0042593
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