The Good Men Project - Call for Bloggers: A Conversation About Men

Do you care about men? Do you want to help create the conversation about how men are or can redefine masculinity for the 21st Century? The the Good Men Project is looking for you - whether you are XX, XY or one of the many variations is not relevant.

Call for Bloggers: A Conversation About Men

October 26, 2013 by the Editors

We’re having a conversation about what it means to be a man in the 21st century. It’s the conversation no one else is having. And we’re hoping you’ll join.

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We’re looking for people want to talk about men, and want to better understand the rapidly changing roles that are happening in the 21st century. If writing about the trials, the tribulations, and the joys of manhood appeals to you, we’d love for you to become a regular blogger. You will get a terrific platform (the total network is steadily growing, but right now gets almost 8 million pageviews a month) and an opportunity to help shape not only The Good Men Project itself, but the conversation about men in the world. There really is no limit to what you can blog about, as long as it relates in some way to things that men in today’s modern world care about (And trust us, that’s a whole lot of things). We are also looking for humor, insights, and raw honest truths. But mostly we’re looking for your own unique voice. First person narratives that lead to some deeper, universal understandings are always welcome here. Check out our about page if you want to learn more about who we are and how we’ve grown.

Virtually any well-written post about anything you can imagine that relates to men in the 21st century is something we’d consider publishing.

If you, or someone you know, is interested in becoming a blogger at The Good Men Project, please email Lisa Hickey at lisa@goodmenproject.com with a pitch. We’ll want to know who you are, what you want to write about, and how you expect to do it. Some sense of your writing (and life) experience would help too. You will need to show that you have good ideas, the capacity for brutal honesty and, hopefully, a sense of humor. You will need a social media platform—be prepared to tell us your twitter following, facebook fans, g+ profile and any other places you have a social media footprint. (Redditors get brownie points). We are happy to help you grow your network—in fact, one of the benefits to working with our platform is that you can expect to double your network size if you combine our platform with your own efforts towards growth.

Answers to FAQs: a) unpaid b) 2 month minimum commitment c) write only when you have time, but we are looking for people who want to write at least four times a month—and up to 20 times a month—because they see the value to their own brand, name recognition and platform-building opportunities d) you will get editorial help, direction, and story ideas—as much or as little as you want and need e) you can always link back to your own blog or repost their after e) the majority of your posts will need to be unique content e) once you get into our system, you will upload and format your posts, however, we will have final editorial say f) yes, we work with many large media companies and have a large social network, and we will not only help push your work outward but teach you how to grow your own network. Regular writers also get first crack at interview opportunities, appearances on our own video panels, and the chance to do paid sponsored posts or move up to paid editorial positions.

Apologies for the Intermittent Blogging

Apologies for the scarcity of posts of late - between real work and internship work (and eating and sleeping, etc), I have not been able to get consistent yet. Once my schedule stabilizes a bit, things should get back to a relative normal. Please hang in there, I am not fading away.

Tags: Intermittent, Blogging, blogging, life, busyness, time

The Other Masculine Heart

It has come to my attention that there is another site operating as The Masculine Heart - that is not my site, I do not know the person who runs it, and I do not in any way endorse it. I'm not above offering a link, so if you feel compelled to go have a look, here ya go.

The other site is about dating or something - some kind of coaching service run by someone named Ange Fonce. He promises:

THE MASCULINE HEART is changing the way Men view Sex, Dating and Relationships. Most importantly, it's showing Men how to "Reclaim their Masculine Power. To become a Superior Successful Men and Lover in their Lives. And to design a life that excites YOU completely, not just from a financial standpoint!

I realize he is from the UK, but if he is trying to portray himself as competent in any way he might consider editing the page that represents his services to the world.

Here is the self-statement from Mr. Fonce:

ANGE FONCE

Portsmouth, United Kingdom, United Kingdom

Ange is an Dynamic Life Consultant and Love Mentor, International writer. Speaker, lecturer, and Peak Performance Life Coach/ Therapist. Travelling extensively throughout the UK, Ange addresses critical issues affecting individuals' social development. Ange combines his education in Counselling with training in Peak Performance coaching and psychology, focusing in the area of personal growth and achievement. The central theme of his message is the transformation of followers into leaders and the maximization of individual potential. He is the founder of CLEAR DREAMS. Educating people from his own experiences and learnings of what is humanly possible, Ange empowers and inspires people to take action and realize their goals, thus enabling his clients and students to become 'leaders of self'. Ange also works as an active Dating Coach teaching both Men and Women the Art and skill of Dating and Seduction. He also works with both individuals and couples teaching them Advance Sexual techniques and skills. and the movement of Love energy!

Good for him - I'm sure some guys want and need that kind of coaching. And I hope it works for them.

I also hope he is paying royalties to David Deida, who has been preaching the same stuff Mr. Fonce is preaching for many more years - using essentially the same terms and phrases. Does any of this sound familiar?

"THE MASCULINE HEART is for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly MASCULINE-He is purposeful, Confident and directed, living His chosen way of life with deep integrety and humour - and he is sensitive, spontaneous and spiritual alive, with a heart - commitment to discovering and living His deepest "Truth."

This kind of Man is totally turned on by the Feminine. He loves to take women sexually, to ravish her, but not in some old style macho fashion.

Rather, he wants to ravish her so much love she is vanished, they both vanish, in the fullness of "Loving" itself. He is dedicated to in-carnating Love on this Earth, through his "mission" and his "sexuality," and he does so as a "FREE" Man, bound neither by outer convention nor inner cowardice.

This newly evolving Man is not a scared bully, posturing like some King Kong in charge of the Universe. Nor is he a new - age wimp, all spineless and smiley, and starry eyed. He has embraced his Inner Masculine Core with balanced feminine energy, and he no longer holds on to either of them. He does not need to be right or wrong. Good or bad. Nor does he need to be always safe, co-operative, and sharing, like an androgynous "Mr Nice Guy."

He simply lives from his deepest core, fearlessly giving his gifts, feeling through the fleeting moment into the openness of existance, totally committed to magnifying Love by being "HIS TRUTH!"

Ange Fonce

I'm not interested in helping men learn how to seduce women (or men, if that is their desire) - and while learning some advanced sex techniques is fun for everyone, it works a hell of a lot better in long-term, committed relationships.

The other thing that bothers me about his site is all the rules for how to be a masculine man (and, just saying, when it comes to "traditional" ideals of masculinity, his picture is right up there with the picture of Robert Bly on the dust jacket of Iron John) - we have been handed enough of this shit over the years, we don't need more silly rules.

I would rather help men learn how to be emotionally healthy, to develop an internal "locus of control," and to reframe shaming experiences through narrative revisioning of their lives.

To each, their own - I just wish Mr. Fonce wasn't using the name of my blog.

Tags: blogging, internet, The Masculine Heart, coaching, relationships, Ange Fonce, pick up artist, David Deida, Masculine Men, Superior Men

Spam Sucks

Well, The Masculine Heart must be turning up in some key word searchers - the comment spammers have been hitting me daily. I'm going to trust that if any of you want or need viagra, you can find it on your own.

So, going forward, all comments will be moderated. I'm pretty good about staying on top of this, so there should never be more than 12-24 hrs delay before they show up - generally a lot less.

Sorry for the hassle.

Tags: spam, blogging, comments

Revolutionary Man - Top 7 Men’s Resources On Twitter

Nice list from Jayson Gaddis at the Revolutionary Man, and he was kind enough to include me in the list - much appreciated.

Top 7 Men’s Resources On Twitter

July 29th, 2009

If you are not on twitter, it can be a fun and exciting place to get information. I don’t even read the news anymore because I get the news I want from the people I know, like and trust on twitter.

Twitter is the conversation above the conversation and rather than dig through so many websites with so much content, I browse headlines composed in 140 characters or less and see what I want to read. And, you can target the kind of information you want by who you follow.

Twitter has had a big impact on the globe as evidenced in Iran recently.

If you are a man and you are looking for good personal growth and personal development resources, follow these 7 men on twitter and get an ongoing stream of good information written by men, about men, for men.

Read the whole post to see the magic list.

Tags: blogging, Twitter, masculinity, Revolutionary Man, Top 7 Men’s Resources On Twitter, Jayson Gaddis

Alltop - Top Men's Sites

Alltop collects the "top" sites under a variety of subjects and puts them on one page. Generally, they collect the best of each subject, although in this case they have neglected to include Masculine Heart, so it's not a complete list. (grin)

For readers of this blog, the Alltop Men site might have some useful content amid the, uh, other stuff.

All the top Men’s news.

See also Sports and Autos.

Among the coolest of the sites (ones I read regularly):

Revolutionary Man Blog
The New Man
The Art of Manliness
About.com Mens Health

Enjoy.

Tags: Alltop, Top Men's Sites, masculinity, blogging, Revolutionary Man Blog, The New Man, The Art of Manliness, About.com, Mens Health

Status Report - Still Alive

All moved, but lacking internet connection. Qwest is slow. Love the new place -- more room, lovely roommate, and too many books.

I'll be back online this weekend, I hope, and I might try to blog a bit between now and then, but being so busy at the gym will make that a challenge.

I'm sure I missed lots of cool stuff in the last few days, but I'll try to catch up when things mellow out a bit -- if you sent me an email or a comment and I haven't replied, apologies.

Tags: moving, blogging, life