Monday, December 15, 2008

Men Lack Confidence in Boardroom and Bedroom

[Beckham makes Brit males feel insecure]

This article from the Guardian UK reveals the results of a disturbing study - men are lacking in confidence in most areas of their lives. Most importantly, these men are feeling insecure with women, unsure of themselves, and unable to measure up to popular images of what women want, such as Sex in the City.

This is a tough time for men. The old ways of behaving are no longer adequate, and there are few guideposts for new ways to be masculine. The study reveals that many men turn to alcohol for a little liquid courage. Having been there, done that, I can promise that this approach does not work and only makes things worse in the end.

This blog exists to help explore these issues and share what other men are learning about how to masculine in a post-manly man world.

Men lack confidence in boardroom and bedroom

Males' self-image withers especially when women are around, survey finds

Men used to have the upper hand when it came to confidence in the boardroom, bedroom and the bar.

But, according to new research, men are struggling with a crisis of confidence, with almost half confessing that they feel anxious most of the time - particularly at work and especially around women.

The majority of almost 2,000 men aged 16 to 65 questioned by OnePoll, an independent market research company, admitted struggling to feel confident about their place in society. About half confessed to feeling most insecure when at work, while another 40 per cent also felt inadequate during nights out with friends.

All those questioned by the survey, commissioned by Braun Smooth Side Challenge, admitted to feeling increasingly emasculated by women and said their feelings of inadequacy soar when women are present.

Most intimately, one in four men revealed they are racked by feelings of inadequacy during sex, saying that film and television programmes like Sex and the City had made them anxious about not having enough stamina and imagination in the bedroom.

'Men are more likely than women to have fragile self-esteem, as they judge their status in society through success in a single sphere, such as their career, the size of their pay packet or the model of their car,' said David Sharpley, of the British Psychological Society. 'These are all subject to a high degree of ambiguity and risk. Because men are generally poor at introspection and communicating their emotions, this uncertainty can cause the collapse of their self-esteem.

'But then, because men tend to bottle their emotions, they instinctively fake the confidence they once felt. This exacerbates the problem many times over, because it makes it harder for men to ask for help or for others to see that they need support.'

Dr John Tomlinson, a former GP and trustee of the Sexual Dysfunction Association, said he was hearing from an 'enormous' number of 18- to 40-year-olds worried about sexual problems. 'Advertising - such as David Beckham's Armani underwear campaign - glamorises the well-toned male body, which men find daunting because they assume it is what women expect,' he said.

More than half of those questioned confessed they had no constructive male role model - instead having to resort to fictional characters such as James Bond or Indiana Jones - and that they wished their 'self-image' was stronger, and more masculine and positive.

But instead of becoming more assured with age, three in four men admitted that their lack of assurance had increased as they got older. The majority of those questioned said they felt most confident when they were between 21 and 30. Just 11 per cent of 40-year-olds and 4.6 per cent of 50-years-olds said they felt more confident now than in their youth.

Respondents also revealed being haunted by the conviction that other men are more confident than they are. Almost half of those questioned believed their boss was more self-assured than they were.

One in three men said they turn to alcohol for Dutch courage to help break the cycle. A surprising one in five had lucky charms, with a third admitting they own 'lucky' jewellery, one in four wearing auspicious socks and one in five putting their faith in lucky pants.


Saturday, December 13, 2008

Permanent Adolescence: Why Boys Don't Grow Up

I found this interesting podcast at the Masculine Psychology blog. It deals with a topic that I think is crucial to the failure of mainstream masculinity. Too many men are still little kids in the worst ways, not in the best ways.

Permanent Adolescence: Why Boys Don't Grow Up

Length-41 minutes, 17 seconds

Deborah Harper, host of the Psychjourney Podcast, interviews Mr. Joe Carmichiel, MSEd., author of Permanent Adolescence: Why Boys Don't Grow Up, published by New Horizon Press.

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Joe Carmiechiel, MSEd., an education consultant and freelance journalist, has taught high school English in some of America’s most challenging schools and has a wealth of firsthand experience with teens, gangs, and violent adolescents. He has a B.S. in Communication Studies from the State University of New York at Brockport and an M.S. in English Education from the University of Rochester in Rochester, New York. He lives in Victor, New York, just outside of Rochester. Visit his website.


Friday, December 12, 2008

Muscle Hack - Creatine Facts! What Is The Best Creatine?

Creatine monohydrate is the most widely studied sports supplement in history. Not only is it great for athletes and weight lifters, it's very good for the average person (see here, here, and here, for starters). In fact, I think it should be considered an essential nutrient. And despite claims to the contrary, there have never been any confirmed adverse events associated with creatine.

So with all the health benefits, it's no wonder that unscrupulous supplement companies keep coming out with "new and improved" versions of the ubiquitous creatine monohydrate (which is now very cheap). Trouble is that none of these supplements are any better and most (like the infamous liquid creatine) are complete crap.

Muscle Hack
has an article confirming the worthlessness of two of the better-known of these "next generation" creatine supplements.

First let’s deal with Kre-Alkalyn (KA). The claim here is that KA is stable in stomach acid and does not convert to creatinine. They also state that in contrast, monohydrate (CM) will convert to creatinine at the rate of 90% in stomach acid! Not good, better dump that CM, right? Let’s look at the evidence, the following is from the study…

“In contrast to the claims of All American Pharmaceutical and Natural Foods Corp., the rate of creatinine formation from CM was found to be less than 1% of the initial dose, demonstrating that CM is extremely stable under acidic conditions that replicate those of the stomach. This study also showed that KA supplementation actually resulted in 35% greater conversion of creatine to creatinine than CM. In conclusion the conversion of creatine to creatinine is not a limitation in the delivery of creatine from CM and KA is less stable than CM in the acid conditions of the stomach.”

KA has a 35% greater conversion rate to creatinine than CM; the finest creatine in town? Not on your life!

Now let’s take a look at Creatine Ethyl Esther (CEE). Similarly the claim here is that it doesn’t convert to creatinine as much as CM and has a better absorption rate. This study looked at 2 CEE products. One product called CE2 from Medical Research Institute (MRI) and the other called CM2 Alpha from SAN Corporation. Here are the results after being placed in conditions simulating stomach acid at 5, 30 and 120 minutes….

“After 30 minutes incubation only 73% of the initial CEE present was available from CE2, while the amount of CEE available from San CM2 Alpha was even lower at only 62%. In contrast, more than 99% of the creatine remained available from the CM product. These reductions in CEE availability were accompanied by substantial creatinine formation, without the appearance of free creatine. After 120minutes incubation 72% of the CEE was available from CE2 with only 11% available from San CM2 Alpha, while more than 99% of the creatine remained available from CM.

So, it seems that the addition of the ethyl group to your creatine actually reduces stability in stomach acid and accelerates its breakdown to creatinine. CEE creatines are inferior to Creatine Monohydrate as a source of free creatine i.e. up to a difference of 11% and 99% availability - that’s huge!

How much better could your workouts and gains have been if you hadn’t bought into the bogus claims about CEE and KA?

So if you want the best creatine, stick to monohydrate.

See his article on creatine here, where he argues in favor of capsules rather than powder - personally, the powder works fine for me.


Thursday, December 11, 2008

Youthfulness: An American Obsession, At Any Cost

I saw this guy in the paper on Sunday, and thought, "Wow, does he have some serious issues with aging." He's 67-years-old in the photo, and soon to be 70. He takes growth hormone every day and testosterone injections once a week. And, oh yeah, he's a doctor.

As much as I favor testosterone to keep aging men healthy, I am not a fan of growth hormone for one simple reason - it's indiscriminate in what it makes grow: muscles, internal organs (notice the bulging gut on a man who eats only 1,900 calories a day), or cancer cells. The first one is good, the last two not so much. Oh, and HGH also tends to cause diabetes.

But not only is he doing this to himself, he's doing it to his patients.

Americans - men as much as women - do NOT want to age. They will do anything to avoid aging, both physically (like the doctor above), mentally (the masculine mid-life crisis), and even in their clothing (like me, still dressing like a college kid).

This article, which takes a look at the doctor above and discusses the whole issue of people not wanting to age, was posted at Huffington Post. How fitting that the doctor's office in Las Vegas, the city of wasted dreams.

Youthfulness: An American Obsession, At Any Cost

MARTHA IRVINE and LINDSEY TANNER | December 7, 2008

LAS VEGAS — It's one of those photos that make you do a double-take. Dr. Jeffry Life stands in jeans, his shirt off. His face is that of a distinguished-looking grandpa; his head is balding, and what hair there is is white. But his 69-year-old body looks like it belongs to a muscle-bound 30-year-old.

The photo regularly runs in ads for the Cenegenics Medical Institute, a Las Vegas-based clinic that specializes in "age management," a growing field in a society obsessed with staying young. Life, who swears that's his real last name, also keeps a framed copy of the photo on his office wall at Cenegenics.

"He's the man!" patient Ed Detwiler says teasingly, pointing to the photo of the doctor who, in many ways, has become his role model.

Detwiler, 47, has been Life's patient for more than three years. In that time, he has adopted the regimen that his doctor also follows _ drastically changing his exercise and eating habits and injecting himself each day with human growth hormone. He also receives weekly testosterone injections.

He does it because it makes him feel better, more energetic, clear-minded.

He does it because he wants to live a long, healthy life.

"If I were stooped over and bedridden, what kind of quality of life is that?" asks Detwiler, a real estate developer in suburban Las Vegas who says he's doing this, in part, for his wife, who is nine years younger. "If I can get out and be active and travel and see the world and be able to make a difference in other people's lives, then yes, I would want to have as long an existence as possible."

It is a common sentiment in a society where many of us strive to look and feel decades younger _ to prove to ourselves and the world that we are healthier and more vital than our parents were at our age. We've all heard it: 60 is the new 50, the new 40 and so on.

But often, we need a little help. Sometimes, a lot of help.

As the baby boomers march toward retirement, Botox, wrinkle fillers and hormones of various kinds have become big business. Medco's latest drug trend report shows, for instance, that human growth hormone use grew almost 6 percent in 2007.

The list for age-defying tactics is endless. Want six-pack abs? There's a surgical procedure to create fake ones. How about drastically cutting your calorie intake to slow the aging process? There's a group of die-hards that swears by it.

This search for eternal youthfulness certainly isn't new. "In 1,500 B.C. people were ingesting tiger gonads to rejuvenate them," says Dr. Gene Cohen, a George Washington University expert on aging.

But for a generation of adults who've been weaned on the modern marketing message _ that for a price, you can have it all _ the quest is taking on a new urgency.

There is, of course, much to be said for taking good care of yourself. Eating healthy and exercising your body and your brain regularly are considered tried-and-true tactics for staying young. Protecting yourself from harmful sun rays is another. Even flossing teeth is a habit that, according to research on people who live to 100, might extend life.

But that's generally where the consensus ends.

Many in mainstream medicine and elsewhere worry that we're becoming too focused on treatments with short-term benefits that have potentially dangerous side effects and scant, if any, evidence that they'll help in the long run. In doing so, they wonder if some people are actually jeopardizing their chance at a long, healthy life, both physically and emotionally.

"The quest to live forever and the desire to avoid diseases and not suffer" is understandable, says S. Jay Olshansky, a public health professor and longevity researcher at the University of Illinois at Chicago.

But it can make people vulnerable to far-fetched and potentially dangerous scams, he said, with some of the more bizarre including fetal cell injections, inhaling radon gas, even cutting off testicles, an ancient practice meant to reduce overexposure to reproductive hormones.

"There's a large industry of people trying to sell to people what doesn't yet exist and they're making gobs of money doing it _ much to the dismay of those of us who are vigilant about protecting public health," he says.

There also are concerns that this obsession is sending the wrong message to younger generations.

Surveys from cosmetic surgery trade groups suggest that sizable numbers of people, even in their 20s, are getting cosmetic procedures.

And a fall 2007 survey from TRU, a research firm that specializes in the teenage demographic, found that a quarter of young people, 12 to 19 _ and a third of girls in that age group _ are interested in having cosmetic surgery to improve their appearance.

Michael Wood, vice president and director of syndicated research at TRU, was a bit startled by the results.

"There's no doubt that the celebration of youth and looking younger has certainly accelerated in the last 10 years, five years even," Wood says. "And this is a generation that's growing up with that at a very young age."

The effect has been palpable, says Neil Howe, a respected generational expert who has written extensively about "millennials," young people who are coming of age in this century.

"I guess even young isn't enough anymore," Howe says. "It's got to be 'perfect' young."

Alex Sabbag, a 23-year-old Chicagoan, has felt the pressure, both self-imposed and societal.

"I'll age until I'm 25. Then I'm over it," she said to co-workers during a lunchroom conversation that turned to the topic of Botox.

She was only partly serious. But she says she's also accepted that we live in a society where being well put-together and youthful gives you status.

"We all buy into it," Sabbag says. And plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures are part of it.

She's never had anything done, though wouldn't rule it out in the future. She also vividly recalls how her mother left home for several days, when Sabbag was in elementary school, and returned after having a facelift.

"I think it gives women and men alike worlds of confidence that ultimately makes them better people," Sabbag says. "Yes, it is a vain practice ... but I think there comes a point for people when hard work isn't enough to kick the last bit of belly fat or gravity has become entirely too unbeatable, and so a little nip-tuck of the forehead needs to happen."

Detwiler, Life's patient at Cenegenics, is not looking for the appearance of youth. He's looking to extend his youthfulness, and his life.

He knows about human growth hormone and its controversies in sports. But this, he and his doctor insist, is different. While it is illegal for these kinds of hormones to be dispensed for anti-aging purposes, he takes relatively low doses prescribed for "hormone deficiency." The idea is to bring his levels back up to those of a young man in his 20s.

"My friends say, 'Oh, Ed's on steroids,'" says Detwiler, who has watched as muscle has replaced fat on his belly and elsewhere. "No, I'm not. Look at me. Do I look like I'm on steroids?"

He holds out his arms to indicate that his body is fit-looking, but not monstrous. "I'm not. I'm on hormone therapy," he says of a regimen that costs him more than $1,000 a month.

Besides human growth hormone, testosterone, and an adrenal hormone known as DHEA, his diet now largely consists of things like hard-boiled eggs, fruits, nuts, Greek yogurt, salads and palm-sized pieces of fish, chicken or low-fat beef. He also exercises regularly, alternating between intense cardio workouts and weight-resistance training.

"I can't tell you in words how great I feel," says the man who used to crack open a Pepsi to get him through the day.

For a group known as the Calorie Restriction Society, youthfulness isn't found in hormones. It's reducing food intake to, in some cases, near-starvation levels.

But the claims are much the same _ "lots of energy" and feeling "sharp," says Brian Delaney, a 45-year-old California-born writer now living in Sweden. He's the president of the group that claims about 2,000 members worldwide and many more followers who use the method in hopes of markedly increasing their longevity.

By cutting daily calories to about 1,900, roughly half the recommended amount for someone his height and age, and exercising every day, Delaney has shrunk himself to about 140 pounds. He says his blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar levels have improved dramatically.

At 5 foot 11, he admits he's "scrawny," which he calls the main drawback.

Hunger and wearing extra clothes to stay warm _ because of little body fat or, he claims, an effect of slowed aging _ are barely annoyances for Delaney.

He says he eats sensibly, replacing junk food with lots of fruits and vegetables, no meat, and two meals daily _ no lunch. Breakfast is often "a hearty bowl" of granola, with fruit, nuts and soy milk; while dinner could be fish, rice, beans, a large salad and red wine.

Other than "tons of fine wrinkles" he blames on too much sun as a kid, Delaney says in most respects, "I look much younger" than 45.

It is a bragging right many strive for.

"When we were younger, we'd talk about someone who was 60 and that was old. And now my gym is full of women over 60 and they look phenomenal," says Renee Young, a 48-year-old businesswoman in New Rochelle, N.Y. "They don't want to be categorized as old."

But there's more to it than that. Youthfulness, she says frankly, is also a means of survival in the business world, including in her line of work, public relations.

"It feels like you're put out to pasture. No one wants to feel that how they look means that their ability to do anything is decreased," Young says. "If you have a younger look, you feel healthier. You feel that you're still in the game."

In the back of her mind is the fact that her own mother died when she was only 56.

So five or six mornings a week, even when she'd rather pull the covers over her head, Young gets up and puts in two hours at the gym.

That's more than double the hour or so a day generally recommended for optimal health. And still, for her, that wasn't enough. She recently spent nearly $20,000 on a tummy tuck because, as she puts it, no number of abdominal crunches was going to make her as trim as she wanted to be.

The result has been a makeover for her entire sense of self, she says.

"I made a commitment this summer. If I was going to go through all this surgery, then it was going to have to be part of a complete program," says Young, who's also getting more rest and eating healthier.

"I can definitely see the result." She, too, says she has not felt this good in years.

Using a cosmetic procedure as a motivator is worthwhile, and lucrative, to say the least, says Dr. Jonathan Lippitz. He's an emergency room physician in suburban Chicago who does cosmetic procedures, such as Botox and skin fillers, in a separate practice.

But it's also a "very slippery slope," with patients sometimes willing to take more risk than they should and some doctors who'll accommodate.

"They'll always find somebody willing to do it," he says.

In his own practice, he says he finds himself continually walking a fine line in deciding which procedures he'll do _ and which ones he won't.

"We all say, 'I want my hair different. I want my eyes different,'" Lippitz says. "This idea of being perfect is a problem, though, because it's not reality.

"I have people coming in and saying 'I want these lips.' I say, 'You can't have these lips.'

"I say, 'We'll work with what you have.'"

But what if what they have is just fine? These are the sorts of questions that trouble Dr. Michael Morgan, a dentist who does cosmetic work in another Chicago suburb.

He's been seeing more young, female clients walking through his doors. And even his own 13-year-old daughter asked if he would whiten her teeth, something he didn't think she needed. Nor did he consider it safe for her young teeth or "age appropriate."

"There's a consciousness about it. They are much more concerned with the appearance of their face. But there's also a social pressure," he says of the younger generation for whom he'll do the most conservative procedures, but no more.

He sounds a little sad when he talks about it.

"There's nothing wrong with wanting to look better. We want to look young. We want to look great," he says. "But part of that feeling has to come from within."

For those going to even greater lengths to try to keep aging _ and ultimately death _ at bay, there also are no guarantees.

Calorie restriction guru Dr. Roy Walford succumbed to complications from Lou Gehrig's disease at age 79, closer to the average than the "extraordinarily long life" his followers talk about on their Web site.

Meanwhile, Dr. Alan Mintz, founder of Cenegenics, died at the relatively young age of 69 due to complications during a brain biopsy.

Some research has suggested that human growth hormone injections can cause cancer. They've also been linked with nerve pain, elevated cholesterol and increased risks for diabetes.

Even so, Life, now the chief medical officer at Cenegenics, remains steadfast. Among other things, he points to studies that suggest that human growth hormone in low doses poses no cancer risk if there is no preexisting cancer.

"Within the next 10 years, maybe less, this is going to be thought of as mainstream medicine _ preventing disease, slowing the aging process down, preventing people from losing their ability to take care of themselves when they get older and ending up in nursing homes," Life says. "This is really the cutting edge of medicine."

Detwiler is betting on that.

"There are those who might think I'm cheating God's way. I don't know," he says. "But I don't want to regress. Why should I?"

He says his overall body fat has dropped from nearly 17 percent to less than 10 percent. He can't remember the last time he had a cold or the flu. And he says he's had the stamina to work long hours, putting him on pace to earn more than a million dollars this year.

That's what he knows now. The future, he says, will be anyone's guess.

"People might ask, 'Hey, what's happened to these people? Was it cutting edge? Or did it cut it short?'" he says, as he walks into a gym for another workout.

"I think only time will tell."


Wednesday, December 10, 2008

New Man Episode 41: Marcus Buckingham: The Truth About You

Another great episode of the New Man podcast. By the way, they have released a "Best Of" collection from Season 1, a great gift for the holidays - NM: Best of Season 1 CD-set.

Episode 41: Marcus Buckingham: The Truth About You

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Marcus Buckingham wants you to be the best you can possibly be. Not only that, he has a quick, effective program to help you get there.

Marcus has made a career out of studying high performance people from business to sports and reverse engineering their secrets for success. From this research he has learned some secrets to success that are in direct opposition to what we are taught growing up.

In our dialogue with Marcus, you will learn:

  • How do we define strengths?

  • Who is the best judge of your strength?

  • What do you call something you are very good at, that you don't like to do?

  • How do you make your strengths even stronger?

  • You are born perfect, how are you going to contribute that to the world?

  • How to create your "strong week" plan?

Listen as Marcus shows us how to amplify our strengths and make a real impression with our time here on Earth.

"It is your responsibility to offer your greatest, and longest lasting contribution to life." --Marcus Buckingham

Another heads up - they are conducting poll to make The New Man better and more attuned to what we, as their listeners, are looking for - and you can get a free 30 minute coaching session or taking the survey.


Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Time With Dad Is Time Well Spent


I'm not one of those people who will argue that a kid - especially a son - needs his father in his life no matter what. On the other hand, having navigated my teen years without a father, I can tell you without reservation that a boy needs some form or mature male guidance as he grows up, and that is best offered by a loving father.

Besides all the basic stuff that fathers can offer their kids - love and support, wisdom, advice - new research shows that the more time and love a father invests in his kids, the smarter and more successful those kids will be as adults. Apparently, sons benefit more from this than daughters, and more educated men offer more than less educated men (importantly, this last distinction disappears by midlife, so it has more to do with the love than the material benefits).

Time with dad is time well spent

When picking out that perfect Father's Day gift next year, sons and daughters might want to look to their own accomplishments before deciding between a gaudy polyester tie or splurging on a new set of golf clubs.

The more effort a father invests in his children, the smarter they are as kids and more successful as adults, new research shows. And highly educated fathers make even more of a difference than less educated dads, all things being equal.

"It's not [just] about having dad around, it's about what kind of dad he is," says Daniel Nettle, a psychologist at the University of Newcastle, UK, who led the new analysis, based on surveys of more than 10,000 children over half a century.

Nettle used the National Child Development Study, which traces the lives of every Briton born between 3 and 9 March, 1958. Surveys taken in the 1960s and 70s asked mothers to rate the father's involvement in his child, from "inapplicable" to "equal to the mother". These and later surveys through 2005 tracked intelligence, income, and education of the participants.

Nettle has previously used the same data set to show that wealthy men father more children than paupers.

With paternal investment, however, time seemed to be the most important currency. At age 11, children of highly involved fathers boasted markedly higher IQs than children with less present dads. "This is not half a point, this is a few points of IQ, on average," he says.

Sons over daughters

Nettle also found that highly educated and successful fathers get more bang for their buck, compared with uneducated and working class men. All things being equal, fathers of high socioeconomic status gave children a small extra boost with their attention than less affluent fathers.

However, this effect did not last through middle age. At 42, the children of super-dads were no more socially mobile than other children - regardless of the father's education level or profession.

Sons enjoyed more of a boost than daughters, possibly because men face more hurdles in climbing the social ladder than women, Nettle speculates. This could be one reason why fathers tended to invest more time in sons, than daughters.

Robert Quinlan, a biocultural anthropologist at Washington State University in Pullman, says the study breaks new ground in showing the benefits of having a father around - especially an affluent one.

Quinlan wonders, though, whether discrepancies in a father's socioeconomic status make a real-world difference, rather than a statistical one, detectable only in large-scale surveys. "How much would you pay to get a half a point of IQ," he asks.

Journal reference: Evolution and Human Behavior(DOI: 10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2008.06.002)


Zercherish Front Squats

The best core work is NEVER a sit up or a crunch, so if you are a man who would like to get the mythical - but obtainable - six-pack abs, this is one exercise that will get you on your way (but please remember, diet is about 70% of the game).

Zercherish Front Squats

By Nick Nilsson

This exercise is not quite a Zercher squat (where you hold the barbell cradled in the crooks of your elbows, down by your stomach) and not quite a front squat.

It's basically a combination of BOTH, where you're supporting in the crooks of your elbows but at shoulder height like a front squat.

This hits the abdominal wall HARD - very similar to a curl squat but without the tension on the biceps and without the possibility of resting your arms on your abs as you come up.

Holding your arms at shoulder level really puts tension on the core. It's a great way to build up the core to improve it for front squatting.

Here's the cross-arm position of a front squat - the bar is supported on your shoulder girdle.

Here's the "Zercherish" position...get the bar right in the bend of your elbows.

Now clasp your hands over the top of the bar to lock them in.

The bar is now not being supported on the shoulder girdle but being held up solely with muscle support from the shoulders and frontal core muscles.

Set the bar up at regular squat height - you won't need much weight for this one. Hook your elbows under.

Step out of the rack.

Then squat!

Not a hard concept in general - it's the bar placement that makes this one different. Give it a shot - I promise your core will be screaming at the end of the set!


About The Author

Nick Nilsson is the Director of Online Operations for Staley Training Systems. He has a degree in Physical Education and Psychology and has been inventing powerful new training techniques for more than 17 years.

Nick is the author of a number of bodybuilding eBooks (listed below) all available by clicking here and has written for a variety of publications including Men's Fitness, Reps, Musclemag, Bodybuilding.com and many others. He can be contacted at nick@staleytraining.com.

Monday, December 8, 2008

What Boys Are Made Of

I listened to this NPR show on Sunday. I find it disturbing that boys are being punished and shamed for being boys. We are raising a new generation of feminized boys in so many ways I can't even count. We feminize their behavior by making them "play nice" rather than the rough-housing boys need to experience. We feminize their bodies (with soy products and environmental xenoestrogens) and wonder why they grow man-boobs in their teen years. And we feminize their psyches with an emphasis on female emotional traits rather than allowing boys to have their own emotions and feel safe in that.

Anyway, this show explores some of these issues.
To the Best of Our Knowledge

WHAT BOYS ARE MADE OF

Program 07-12-09-A

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Let boys be boys. It's a hard thing to do today with concern over violence
in schools and the seeming violence of boys' play. But what if, thanks to our culture of fear, boys are slipping through the cracks? In this hour of To the Best of Our Knowledge, we take a look at the inner world of boys. We'll talk with the author of "The Dangerous Book for Boys" who says it's time to celebrate slingshots and skinned knees. And, we'll get to know a South African teenage boy named "Spud."

SEGMENT 1:

Conn Iggulden wrote "The Dangerous Book for Boys" with his brother, Hal. The idea is not to injure children but to help them have more fun, as Igglulden explains to Anne Strainchamps. It must be working since the book's a best- seller on both sides of the Atlantic. Also, psychologist Michael Thompson consults with school systems about how to communicate with boys. He tells Jim Fleming that boys are even more emotionally vulnerable than girls, but we have to learn to accept what they're saying, even if it's succinct.

SEGMENT 2:

John Van de Ruit is an actor, writer, and producer who lives in South Africa and has created a phenomenon with his novels "Spud" and its sequel "Spud: The Madness Continues." Van de Ruit tells Anne Strainchamps about Spud and reads excerpts from the books. Also, TTBOOK producer Veronica Rueckert tells us why she really wanted a girl when she found out she was pregnant, and how much fun it's been (so far)to raise her son, Budgy.

SEGMENT 3:

Teddy Atlas is famous in boxing circles as a coach and color analyst on ESPN's Friday Night Fights. His new autobiography is called "Atlas: From the Streets to the Ring: A Son's Struggle to Become A Man." Atlas tells Steve Paulson about his journey from a violent and criminal youth to self-respect and maturity.

CD copies are available at 1-800-747-7444. Ask for program number 07-12-09-A.

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Books:

Conn Iggulden, Hal Iggulden, The Dangerous Book for Boys (Harper Collins)
Michael Thompson, Raising Cain (Ballantine)
John van de Ruit, Spud (Penguin)
Teddy Atlas, From the Streets to the Ring: a Son's Struggle to Become a Man (Harper Collins)

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Music:

  • Private CD:
    -Space Kindern/Press Play/Playsoundz
    -Siren Song/Press Play/ Playsoundz
    -Scramble/ California Guitar Trio/Pathways/DGM
    -Bubble Gum Pop/ Press Play/Playsoundz
    -Just the Two of Us/ Grover Washington Jr. & Bill Withers
    -Rods and Cones/ Blue Man Group Audio/ Blue Man Group Records LLC
    -Opening Mandelbrot/Blue Man Group Audio/ Blue Man Group Records LLC

Distribution dates:
week of 12/07/2008 - hour 2
week of 12/09/2007 - hour 1
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Sunday, December 7, 2008

Chogyam Trungpa - Perception and Perceiver

Cool quote today from Chogyam Trungpa's Ocean of Dharma.
PERCEPTION AND PERCEIVER

The feminine principle is the perception of colors, directions, time. Thus it is the manifestation of the colorful aspect of the world. Without it, there is no perceiver of this. The perceiver is the masculine principle. In this framework, the masculine principle is not regarded as the master dominating the scene. Moreover, we are not saying that the feminine principle belongs to women and the masculine principle to men. Wherever there is a perceiver, that is the masculine principle; wherever there is a perception, that is the feminine principle.

From "Femininity," in THE COLLECTED WORKS OF CHOGYAM TRUNGPA, Volume Six, page 565
Nice distinction he draws on the inner psychology of perception.


Saturday, December 6, 2008

ATOMIC DOG - Mad Man on the Couch

TC, Editor-in-Chief of T-Nation, writes a weekly column called Atomic Dog. He basically uses the space to talk about whatever is on his mind, often with a lot of low-brow humor and an edge of "progressive" (in the I love women and weights and can still have feelings kind of way) masculinity.

This week's Atomic Dog is a little different than usual -- it's more a stream of consciousness piece centered on his feeling a bit depressed. He set this up as his monologue in a therapy session. I'm leaving out the first bit (where he riffs on Prince Albert and some bizarre incident with a deer tongue) and posting the meat of the article. It's long, but I think he makes some good observations.

ATOMIC DOG
Mad Man on the Couch

But like I said, I've been feeling a little depressed lately. I'm not ready to really go into a whole lot of specifics right now, but suffice it to say it's got to do with one of those life-and-death medical conditions affecting someone close to me. You know the type I'm talking about, they come out of the blue, one minute you're thinking life is pretty good and you're a Master of the Universe and then some shit comes hurtling from the sky, thrown by some angry god who apparently had had enough of your hubris.

So you get the biopsies and you sit around, glassy eyed, for about a week or two, waiting for the damn phone to ring so you can hear the benign thing or the malignant thing.

And the phone did ring, and it wasn't the good thing, the benign thing, and now you've got to watch them go through the chemo.

So not only do you start thinking about their mortality, you start thinking about your own.

I keep reciting this old poem by John Dryer in my head, and I mean reciting it, close to the point of going nuts:

Lighthearted stuff, huh? Speaking of obsession and compulsion, did you know that the author Nathaniel Hawthorne took to writing the number 64 over and over on scraps of paper? And I don't think anybody knows why. That's kind of a weird thing, don't you think?

You know what else is weird? You know how a lot of guys think Sarah Palin is hot? I think a lot of them voted for her ticket for that very reason. Anyhow, Tina Fey looks like her, right? But no one thinks Tina Fey is hot. You'd have to be nuts to think Tina Fey is hot. See what I'm saying? There's an incongruity or inconsistency there.

It's like the time I posted a picture on the site of one of the world's hottest, highest-paid swimsuit models. A lot of guys dismissed her as being no hotter than "hundreds of girls" on their campus or bowling league or whatever, but when some average female posts a picture of herself on the site wearing her JC Penny bargain bin white bra, bad lighting and pasty skin and all, they all go nuts over this newly discovered, milky skinned Venus.

It's bizarre, this, this... proximity hotness. Guys are funny that way. If there's some chance, however remote, that they can actually nail a girl because she's in their History of Western Civilization 101 class or they're talking to her on a forum, she's all the more hot. So yeah, proximity hotness.

But who knows what it is with Palin? Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she was a beauty pageant winner in Alaska. Of course, given that it was Alaska, she was probably competing against a moose and a frozen Eskimo turd, but because of the illusion of beauty perpetuated by this beauty pageant win, the hotness tag stuck. Hell, there are parallels of this type of phenomenon all over the place.

Take Saturday Night Live, for instance, since we were talking about Tina Fey. It absolutely sucks. It hasn't been funny for at least ten years, but people are in the habit of it once being funny; they're told again and again how funny it is, so everybody still believes it.

Same thing with Seinfeld after Larry David left. . It sucked. But people were used to being told Seinfeld was funny and great so the perception lingered despite all evidence to the contrary!

But back to the obsession and the depression. You know, when I was 10 years old, I asked an Ouija board how long I'd live. The answer came back 77. Maybe Nathaniel Hawthorne asked the same question and it told him 64, and that's why he kept writing it down on a piece of paper. I'll have to go Google how old he was when he died. Wouldn't it be Twilight Zone if it were 64?

I tell you one thing, Doc, if you get depressed, take my advice and don't tell your friends. They'll start to avoid you. Maybe they're just totally inept in dealing with darkness. Hell, nowadays if you're faced with a situation that requires some sort of display of emotion or solidarity, you mail a fucking Hallmark card, right? No mess.

Or maybe it's just that depressed people have a stink about them; best to stay clear of that.

Hell, I remember when my mother died. Everybody I knew back then got real scarce. It's not like you need somebody to join in your misery, you could just use some distractions.

I keep thinking about that poor bastard who offed himself on Bodybuilding.com a couple of weeks ago. Now I'm nowhere near where that poor schlub was in terms of depression, can't even imagine myself being close to that poor schlub, but despite all the bad chemicals in his head, he reached out to people on that dopey website, people who, he'd once posted, had "become like a family to me." He told them how he was thinking about killing himself.

And rather than help him, dear Doctor, the motherfuckers urged him to swallow the antidepressant pills that eventually killed him.

And so he did. Poor Abraham Biggs, 19-year-old Abraham Biggs, swallowed the pills in front of his video cam, and then walked his skinny body over to his bed and laid down, never to get up again.

His "family" watched him lie there for 7 hours until the local policemen, apparently alerted by some audience outlier with a speck of humanity, knocked the door down. Site members responded with shocked OMGs or LOLs.

Here's my acronym for the LOL group: IWSAFKIYBBHAH, which, for you non-texters means I Will Stick A Fucking Knife In Your Black Black Hearts, Ass Holes.

Luckily, I have my coping mechanisms, high on the list of which is sex. Of course, if you get too depressed, you have no interest in sex and even some nice cans can't dig you out of that hole. Then you're really fucked.

But I'm nowhere near losing interest in sex, thank God. Sex, or thoughts of sex, or better yet, graphic, HD pictures of sex, can sometimes knock me out of this morbid loop of thinking. Is it that sex is life affirming? You know, the procreative, circle-of-life thing?

Or is it tied somehow to my childhood? I've never really told anybody this, but I used to, briefly, have a vagina. Let me explain quickly so your arched eyebrows can relax. You see, I had this undescended testicle when I was a kid. Damned thing wouldn't budge. It seemed quite content to lounge around my inguinal cavity forever.

The family Doctor even pumped me full of Testosterone at the age of 12 in an effort to make it drop, but it didn't work. So the day after Christmas, my parents surprised me by taking me to the hospital for an operation on my testicle. Hey, thanks folks! Let me sing you a little song to commemorate the event!

Trouble was, my spermatic cord was a little short, so the Doctor literally had to stitch my testicle — right through the scrotal sack — to the inside of my leg for a few weeks. The idea was to force the spermatic cord to stretch so that the testicle wouldn't run home to momma the next time it got scared, either by me standing on a high ledge somewhere or, I don't know, seeing my grandma do her nude calisthenics every morning.

By stitching my scrotum to my leg, it made kind of a little hole, a little pocket of skin, half of which consisted of scrotal skin and half of which consisted of my thigh. I could actually stick my finger in it and imagine that it was kind of like what a girl's hoo-hah felt like.

So it makes sense I'd have a fascination for hoo-hah, given that I had a kind of makeshift hoo-hah of my own for a few weeks. Of course, having a practice vagina served me well later on when I actually encountered a legitimate one.

Maybe that's the key to my id, huh? I mean, having to go to gym class with an ersatz vagina, showering with the seventh grade gym class with an ersatz vagina, I mean, geez Doc, there's got to be at least one paper for the journals in there, right?

Or maybe I'll come up with some great philosophical treatise based on that experience. You know Descartes' main contribution to the world was based on a sexual experience of a kind. As a child, he had a cross-eyed female playmate for a friend. They parted ways, but for years he had a sexual thing for cross-eyed women. But you see, Doc, once he realized the source of his fetish, he was free of the compulsion and was able to love women with normally-spaced eyes. This realization, this insight, led to Descartes' defense of free will and the ability of the mind to control the body.

I think, therefore I am, was the result of a sexual fetish!

You and me Descartes, although you gotta' admit, I had it a far sight worse than you did.

But I think the main source of my current problem, Doc, is that I can't live in the moment. I'm always anticipating four, five, or a hundred steps ahead. And I have trouble accepting anything as inevitable, even death.

I keep telling myself, courtesy of that New Age wanker, Eckhart Tolle, "Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have," but it won't stick, Doc.

Hell, I can be stuck in a humdinger of a July 4th freeway traffic jam, boxed in on all four sides with nothing but miles and miles of cars up ahead. Even so, rather than accepting the situation and listening to some books on tape or something, I'll be pounding on the steering wheel and cursing the heavens, but still calculating and trying to look for a way out, maybe by driving smack through the guardrail and up that son-of-a-bitchin' hill...

So that's why I got a little depression going. I'm obsessing about the unraveling of the mortal coil and I'm pissed that I can't completely control the situation. I love life so much that I can't stand the idea of it ending... for me, or those close to me.

But I'll get out of this murky funk. It takes sheer will. It's like hoisting a heavy, heavy weight. It takes a lot neurological impulse and a whole bunch of calories, but I can do it. Happiness, too, is inevitable, right?

So, same time next week, Doc?